"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Seriously I need to kick my own ass..

drf408

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So as I've posted in my last posts I've been in a rut lately in the sense of just being ridiculously passive and out thinking myself. So I had a major failure lately but I was out again this week. There were 2 really hot girls that actually came up and just started dancing on me, my friend and I paired up with them. Long story short we bring them back to my place. Mine does a strip tease in my living room in front of all of us, crazy girls. So eventually she kicks her friend out to go with my friend to his place. We go in my bedroom she was playing the game, shes laying half naked but acting like she wants to go to sleep, I've had a lot to drink so and I tried telling myself this is the reason why I did nothing or that I didn't want to play the game and make the effort. Honestly, I did, I just went way too nice, started thinking "maybe she really just wants to sleep". etc.
About 15-20 minutes later she gets weird gets up and says shes going to go, that she's "uncomfortable". Fine. I walk her to my friend's place where hes with her friend, they eventually leave. My friend has his girl's # and he asked what my girl's deal was...she said "he wasn't interested, he didn't do anything and fell asleep". Ugh. She was REALLY hot. It's positive that this girl was into me, but the way it ended (my fault) made me feel worse about my failure with that girl I liked and instead of taking the edge off has me insanely irritated. I just can't figure out why lately I am just soo passive and have such a hard time in situations like this. I turn into pathetic nice guy and a girl like that is not looking for that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Get what is yours. Always be sexual. It's is your job to be as sexual as you can until she gets totally weirded out. Nothing easier to do then portray your sexuality.
 

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Agreed, not sure what is coming over me. Based on how things went down my chances were 99.99% lol. Now I'm more aggravated about my blown opportunity with the other girl I've liked for months. Just blows my mind how you can be attractive and get so much of a girl's interest and then be nothing more than any other dude on the drop of a dime (in the beginning that is). I can only try again, funny how I didn't care that much yesterday about that girl who came back but that could've been the hangover because now I am aggravated, she had a very cute face but her body was easily a 9.
 

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You are that dude until they see your not sexual. Then they think your lame. Finish the play and get what you deserve. Just keep going out and do what you do. Try not to remember the past.
 

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Lame is an understatement I think:) It has always seemed that you would be better viewed from their eyes for at least trying to get in their pants than not at trying. Also I would imagine it probably makes them feel rejected to some degree.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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