"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Seriously I need to kick my own ass..

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So as I've posted in my last posts I've been in a rut lately in the sense of just being ridiculously passive and out thinking myself. So I had a major failure lately but I was out again this week. There were 2 really hot girls that actually came up and just started dancing on me, my friend and I paired up with them. Long story short we bring them back to my place. Mine does a strip tease in my living room in front of all of us, crazy girls. So eventually she kicks her friend out to go with my friend to his place. We go in my bedroom she was playing the game, shes laying half naked but acting like she wants to go to sleep, I've had a lot to drink so and I tried telling myself this is the reason why I did nothing or that I didn't want to play the game and make the effort. Honestly, I did, I just went way too nice, started thinking "maybe she really just wants to sleep". etc.
About 15-20 minutes later she gets weird gets up and says shes going to go, that she's "uncomfortable". Fine. I walk her to my friend's place where hes with her friend, they eventually leave. My friend has his girl's # and he asked what my girl's deal was...she said "he wasn't interested, he didn't do anything and fell asleep". Ugh. She was REALLY hot. It's positive that this girl was into me, but the way it ended (my fault) made me feel worse about my failure with that girl I liked and instead of taking the edge off has me insanely irritated. I just can't figure out why lately I am just soo passive and have such a hard time in situations like this. I turn into pathetic nice guy and a girl like that is not looking for that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Get what is yours. Always be sexual. It's is your job to be as sexual as you can until she gets totally weirded out. Nothing easier to do then portray your sexuality.
 

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Agreed, not sure what is coming over me. Based on how things went down my chances were 99.99% lol. Now I'm more aggravated about my blown opportunity with the other girl I've liked for months. Just blows my mind how you can be attractive and get so much of a girl's interest and then be nothing more than any other dude on the drop of a dime (in the beginning that is). I can only try again, funny how I didn't care that much yesterday about that girl who came back but that could've been the hangover because now I am aggravated, she had a very cute face but her body was easily a 9.
 

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You are that dude until they see your not sexual. Then they think your lame. Finish the play and get what you deserve. Just keep going out and do what you do. Try not to remember the past.
 

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Lame is an understatement I think:) It has always seemed that you would be better viewed from their eyes for at least trying to get in their pants than not at trying. Also I would imagine it probably makes them feel rejected to some degree.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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