"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Serious topic: My best friend's dad has cancer

Production6257

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I just found out today that my best friend's dad has little hope to live. What do I say next time I see my friend? Should i keep quiet and let him bring it up or should I say something? I'm kind of at a loss right now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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amoka

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How did you find out his father has cancer? Would your friend be angry if he finds out that so and so told you? If you think he will be angry, then don't tell hime. Alternatively, you can say: " Hey Joy, how is the family doing?" He'll say fine.... if he wan't you to know of his father's health conditions, I'm sure he'll tell you in a heart bit...
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Just be straight up with him.

"Hey, I heard about your dad. Let me know if I can do anything."

He'll let you know.
 

Production6257

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Alrite thanks a lot guys. I think i will mention it when I see him. I appreciate the responses.
 

Porky

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My mother had cancer and I didn't bring it up with anybody. I think I told only two or three of my friends, and to this day almost none of them know about it.

tell him you love him (it's okay) and that you're there for him, and that if there's anything at all you can do for him he should let you know.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Call_Me_Daddy

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Poooooooorkyyyyyyyyy.

I loooooooooveeeeeeeeee you toooooooooo.

Wanna get together and have some ass sex? We'll take turns.



You mean like that?
 

dannowillbookem

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
Poooooooorkyyyyyyyyy.

I loooooooooveeeeeeeeee you toooooooooo.

Wanna get together and have some ass sex? We'll take turns.



You mean like that?
shut up you moron.

id take it slow with him, if my dad had cancer and little hope to live im not gonna want it to get around.
 

Call_Me_Daddy

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dannowillbookem said:
shut up you moron.

id take it slow with him, if my dad had cancer and little hope to live im not gonna want it to get around.
Say it like a man. You don't have to get all emotional and be like "I love you"... tear. "Do you need a hug?"

No. You just say "I'm sorry to hear that, it must be hard for you. If you need anything, I'm here to help."

See the difference?



I'll give you a hint: One is creepy and one is not.
 
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