Serious Relationship With Christian Girl

[Down Low]

With hymens the rule is: you break it, you buy it.

Marry her, raise a bunch of kids, and be faithful. Be kind, generous, and forgiving. Use your skills to keep the relationship surprising and exciting, and keep her interest level up.

If you fail, the rest of us are going to come there with lead pipes and baseball bats and cave your skull in.

 

[Jariel]

This assumes that people aren't deliberately seeking out trash. Don't agree with that theory at all. They find all these loser women because they're either losers themselves, or are chasing after low quality women. You don't not know when someone is trash. The guys on here complain about all these hot, dumb, worthless, skanky women - because its what they're seeking after. They aren't going after good girls, and that's why they don't find them. Or if they do, its a rare occurance. They chase after the damaged, dysfunctional, loser women - then complain that they're losers. No ****... :trouble:

I was guilty of this at one point, as well. It's not that 99% of the women are worthless, and its impossible to find a good one - you just don't seek after them. All you see are losers because all you are chasing after is losers. It always comes right back to you. Dig in a dumpster, and all you're going to find is trash.

Words of wisdom here, and I've been guilty of falling into that same trap too. I rejected so many quality women during the past couple of years and pursued the wrong types. I guess we can't help it if a bad girl stirs our feelings and gets us turned on, while a nice girl bores us, but I realised I wasn't giving the nice girls enough of a chance.

My problem was that I was rushing towards sex (in part, due to the conditioning from seduction material) and looking for quick results. If they weren't putting out soon enough or at least engaging in sexual escalation, I would ditch them...despite enjoying their company. Or I would scare them away by being too sexual and pushy and portraying myself as a player.

Meanwhile, I was finding women who were putting out on the first date, in the backs of cars and sometimes within a few hours of meeting. In retrospect, it should've come as no surprise when things turned sour and it was real stupid of me to expect them to be quality women who I could form a relationship with.

I was given some advice on this forum a while back about pursuing quality women, to stop being so outcome dependent and pushing for sex. So far it has turned out to be very valuable advice. I've been seeing a real quality girl for a couple of months now and things are going great. I was tempted to next her a few times because things were moving slowly, but I decided to persist and I'm so glad I did. What I have with her so far seems so much healthier than previous relationships and flings. No mind games, no pressure to be a certain way or do certain things, and no time frame in which to do them. We just get together when we're free and have a great time. That's what dating should be about.

 

[jglide123]

All interesting points of views!

Personally, I find that it is difficult to find a woman with the qualities of my current girlfriend. And the dating scene can be depressing, depending on what you're looking for. I mean, to find a girl with not only looks, but who is a genuinely GREAT person is rare, and I should be lucky to have her, and I am.

I guess after a while (almost 2 years) you can start taking people for granted and looking more intensely at their flaws, rather than at the larger picture. You start to look at "loose" women and see them as more adventurous and challenging, rather than appreciating what you have. I think that's what I'm experiencing now....

 

[floydb25]

I dunno, I think men across the board just go for the hottest women available. Only psychologically damaged men would take a less attractive slvt over a more attractive quality woman. It just so happens that the hottest chicks are overwhelmingly low quality in their personality and character. It is therefore a pain in the ass to find an attractive, quality woman.

Yes, exactly. They are looking for the right qualities in the wrong people. That's why its so rare to find a good girl - because they're looking in the wrong places. Most hot chicks are trash. Most girls in the scenes guys are looking in are also trash. This is all on them.

I highly doubt that most guys who complain are genuinely seeking after good girls. And likewise for women.