floydb25 said:
This assumes that people aren't deliberately seeking out trash. Don't agree with that theory at all. They find all these loser women because they're either losers themselves, or are chasing after low quality women. You don't not know when someone is trash. The guys on here complain about all these hot, dumb, worthless, skanky women - because its what they're seeking after. They aren't going after good girls, and that's why they don't find them. Or if they do, its a rare occurance. They chase after the damaged, dysfunctional, loser women - then complain that they're losers. No ****... :trouble:
I was guilty of this at one point, as well. It's not that 99% of the women are worthless, and its impossible to find a good one - you just don't seek after them. All you see are losers because all you are chasing after is losers. It always comes right back to you. Dig in a dumpster, and all you're going to find is trash.
Words of wisdom here, and I've been guilty of falling into that same trap too. I rejected so many quality women during the past couple of years and pursued the wrong types. I guess we can't help it if a bad girl stirs our feelings and gets us turned on, while a nice girl bores us, but I realised I wasn't giving the nice girls enough of a chance.
My problem was that I was rushing towards sex (in part, due to the conditioning from seduction material) and looking for quick results. If they weren't putting out soon enough or at least engaging in sexual escalation, I would ditch them...despite enjoying their company. Or I would scare them away by being too sexual and pushy and portraying myself as a player.
Meanwhile, I was finding women who were putting out on the first date, in the backs of cars and sometimes within a few hours of meeting. In retrospect, it should've come as no surprise when things turned sour and it was real stupid of me to expect them to be quality women who I could form a relationship with.
I was given some advice on this forum a while back about pursuing quality women, to stop being so outcome dependent and pushing for sex. So far it has turned out to be very valuable advice. I've been seeing a real quality girl for a couple of months now and things are going great. I was tempted to next her a few times because things were moving slowly, but I decided to persist and I'm so glad I did. What I have with her so far seems so much healthier than previous relationships and flings. No mind games, no pressure to be a certain way or do certain things, and no time frame in which to do them. We just get together when we're free and have a great time. That's what dating should be about.
