Advice from the old lady:
This gal seems pretty sensible to me. She cannot control how her family is. She didn't get to pick her family, and she holds them at arm's length because she does not blindly subscribe to whatever they say. She ran away to escape arranged marriage to a man she found gross, and chose someone else, and she is divorced because she would not tolerate sexual infidelity.....I see those decisions as coming from a place of high self esteem & high self respect. Those decisions meant she had to be resourceful and self reliant. Capable. Those are good qualities rooted in solid values.
So what if she works at the ex husband's business. She has to work somewhere and her work situation has some positives.
Do not be so insecure as to be silly, OP. She is being honest & transparent about work. Do not, through your own ego & insecurity, teach her to shield you from the truth. Value her honesty & drive on.
You complaining about her work setting makes you appear childish, immature & insecure. Its not a good reflection on you.
Agree with
@The Duke on this. Let it ride & see where it goes. There are no perfect people. Honestly she sounds like a sensible well grounded woman with standards.
It is still early. Be observant and cool and see how things develop.
