What do you do when an ex calls you to talk about her life or aimless sh!t. But you dont know why she is. I think maybe she needs her time to herself she obviously is not looking for someone else. I want her back but i dont want to hear her bs unless im her bf. And i dont want to say something selfish to her and ruin everything
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Serious question what do you do when your ex calls you?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
first thing
shes ur ex.
DONT even talk about hooking back up. its out of the question.. make sure U tell her straight up too
and dont be an Ashole either if she calls you up to talk about her problems cuz maybe shes feeling a lil down
reasure her.. modatviate her, tell her things going to be better..
try not to talk to her alot either, is she is calling you almost everyday then theres a problem..
shes a human being.. We all need someone to talk too in tight situations
shes ur ex.
DONT even talk about hooking back up. its out of the question.. make sure U tell her straight up too
and dont be an Ashole either if she calls you up to talk about her problems cuz maybe shes feeling a lil down
reasure her.. modatviate her, tell her things going to be better..
try not to talk to her alot either, is she is calling you almost everyday then theres a problem..
shes a human being.. We all need someone to talk too in tight situations
Damian
Senior Don Juan
Rule number one: GET OVER YOUR EX. You broke up, period. If you get back together, the same thing will happen. The happily-ever-after story with break-ups only happens in the movies.
Rule number two: GET OVER YOUR ONE-ITIS. This should be self explanatory.
Rule number three: IF YOU WANT TO DO SOMETHING, DO IT NOW. If you want her back, be proactive in doing so. Don't mope around and hope that she comes running back into your arms.
Rule number four: DON'T LET A WOMAN USE YOU. That's what's happening now. Your ex is using you as emotional support and a listening ear for nothing in exchange. She only does it because she knows you are available and easy to manipulate. Wise up and stop being her tool.
-Damian
Rule number two: GET OVER YOUR ONE-ITIS. This should be self explanatory.
Rule number three: IF YOU WANT TO DO SOMETHING, DO IT NOW. If you want her back, be proactive in doing so. Don't mope around and hope that she comes running back into your arms.
Rule number four: DON'T LET A WOMAN USE YOU. That's what's happening now. Your ex is using you as emotional support and a listening ear for nothing in exchange. She only does it because she knows you are available and easy to manipulate. Wise up and stop being her tool.
-Damian
what if she just needed to talk to someone? correct me if im wrong she called once??
if she calls again and says the same stuff then maybe shes using you
dont pick up if she calls within a few days after
KarmaSutra
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Tough lesson to learn
She's calling you and blathering endlessly about her problems because YOU'LL LISTEN! while a strong, confident Alpha is bangin' the a$$ out of her.
I say this not to hurt you or demean your emotional, feminine side but to illustrate what you need to see to get over her.
She's an X for a reason. One-itis is a problem each of us have to live through at least once in our lives to understand it. The smart ones realize it for what it is and go out and acquire other holes to fill.
She's calling you and blathering endlessly about her problems because YOU'LL LISTEN! while a strong, confident Alpha is bangin' the a$$ out of her.
I say this not to hurt you or demean your emotional, feminine side but to illustrate what you need to see to get over her.
She's an X for a reason. One-itis is a problem each of us have to live through at least once in our lives to understand it. The smart ones realize it for what it is and go out and acquire other holes to fill.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Can I call you back, my new GF and her sister are giving me a BJ..."
WTF do you mean what do you do when she calls? Understand that she's run out of Playtex and she's trying to use you as an emotional tampon. Dude, grab yourself by the string and pull your @ss out!
WTF do you mean what do you do when she calls? Understand that she's run out of Playtex and she's trying to use you as an emotional tampon. Dude, grab yourself by the string and pull your @ss out!
MightyMate
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Well if You want her back.. Just ignore her. DOnt answer questions etc. Say You dont wanna speak.