What do you do when an ex calls you to talk about her life or aimless sh!t. But you dont know why she is. I think maybe she needs her time to herself she obviously is not looking for someone else. I want her back but i dont want to hear her bs unless im her bf. And i dont want to say something selfish to her and ruin everything
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Serious question what do you do when your ex calls you?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
first thing
shes ur ex.
DONT even talk about hooking back up. its out of the question.. make sure U tell her straight up too
and dont be an Ashole either if she calls you up to talk about her problems cuz maybe shes feeling a lil down
reasure her.. modatviate her, tell her things going to be better..
try not to talk to her alot either, is she is calling you almost everyday then theres a problem..
shes a human being.. We all need someone to talk too in tight situations
shes ur ex.
DONT even talk about hooking back up. its out of the question.. make sure U tell her straight up too
and dont be an Ashole either if she calls you up to talk about her problems cuz maybe shes feeling a lil down
reasure her.. modatviate her, tell her things going to be better..
try not to talk to her alot either, is she is calling you almost everyday then theres a problem..
shes a human being.. We all need someone to talk too in tight situations
Damian
Senior Don Juan
Rule number one: GET OVER YOUR EX. You broke up, period. If you get back together, the same thing will happen. The happily-ever-after story with break-ups only happens in the movies.
Rule number two: GET OVER YOUR ONE-ITIS. This should be self explanatory.
Rule number three: IF YOU WANT TO DO SOMETHING, DO IT NOW. If you want her back, be proactive in doing so. Don't mope around and hope that she comes running back into your arms.
Rule number four: DON'T LET A WOMAN USE YOU. That's what's happening now. Your ex is using you as emotional support and a listening ear for nothing in exchange. She only does it because she knows you are available and easy to manipulate. Wise up and stop being her tool.
-Damian
Rule number two: GET OVER YOUR ONE-ITIS. This should be self explanatory.
Rule number three: IF YOU WANT TO DO SOMETHING, DO IT NOW. If you want her back, be proactive in doing so. Don't mope around and hope that she comes running back into your arms.
Rule number four: DON'T LET A WOMAN USE YOU. That's what's happening now. Your ex is using you as emotional support and a listening ear for nothing in exchange. She only does it because she knows you are available and easy to manipulate. Wise up and stop being her tool.
-Damian
what if she just needed to talk to someone? correct me if im wrong she called once??
if she calls again and says the same stuff then maybe shes using you
dont pick up if she calls within a few days after
KarmaSutra
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Tough lesson to learn
She's calling you and blathering endlessly about her problems because YOU'LL LISTEN! while a strong, confident Alpha is bangin' the a$$ out of her.
I say this not to hurt you or demean your emotional, feminine side but to illustrate what you need to see to get over her.
She's an X for a reason. One-itis is a problem each of us have to live through at least once in our lives to understand it. The smart ones realize it for what it is and go out and acquire other holes to fill.
She's calling you and blathering endlessly about her problems because YOU'LL LISTEN! while a strong, confident Alpha is bangin' the a$$ out of her.
I say this not to hurt you or demean your emotional, feminine side but to illustrate what you need to see to get over her.
She's an X for a reason. One-itis is a problem each of us have to live through at least once in our lives to understand it. The smart ones realize it for what it is and go out and acquire other holes to fill.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Can I call you back, my new GF and her sister are giving me a BJ..."
WTF do you mean what do you do when she calls? Understand that she's run out of Playtex and she's trying to use you as an emotional tampon. Dude, grab yourself by the string and pull your @ss out!
WTF do you mean what do you do when she calls? Understand that she's run out of Playtex and she's trying to use you as an emotional tampon. Dude, grab yourself by the string and pull your @ss out!
MightyMate
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Well if You want her back.. Just ignore her. DOnt answer questions etc. Say You dont wanna speak.