"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Serious or just innocent flirtation?

Ayanara

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Hey guys,

FYI, I'm a female.

I've been friends with "Greg" for over 10 years now. We've supported each other through some very trying times over the past two years, which included dealing with some difficult breakups for both of us. IMO, we've always given each other straight-forward, honest advice when it comes to dealing with our respective relationships (i.e., no ulterior motives). We compliment each other often, and know that one another are a "great catch" for the right/lucky person.

I do believe we're both attracted to each other. Recently, we've began some pretty serious flirting, complete with sexual innuendo. Thing is, he's usually a bit tipsy when this flirtation takes place, and most of it is via text or email, so I'm finding it darn near impossible to tell if he's serious - if he'd really, truly be interested in "something," and what exactly that "something" would be has me even more confused. I've tried to be more blatant and obvious, to which he usually goes quiet or comes back with some coy response.

Help? Any other info you need?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Jon55

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Tips, you post them here.

Questions go in Don Juan Discussion. Please try and actually read the little descriptions.
 

afrojiggles

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mmm....why dont you break the ice and lead the poor dude on and see what sognals he may give you ??? :cheer: :woo:
 

ARrocket

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yeah, you're in the wrong forum.

IMO it all depends on your gut feeling...do you really think he's into you, or is it just wishful thinking?

Increase the amount of physical contact....keep going until he becomes uncomfortable. If he doesn't, then you're in :)
 

Ayanara

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Sorry guys. I actually meant to post this in "The Mature Man." But thanks for the warm welcome.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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true romance

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I've been friends with "Greg" for over 10 years now. We've supported each other through some very trying times over the past two years, which included dealing with some difficult breakups for both of us. IMO, we've always given each other straight-forward, honest advice when it comes to dealing with our respective relationships (i.e., no ulterior motives). We compliment each other often, and know that one another are a "great catch" for the right/lucky person


when he flirt, you should escalate the flriting to see if he is serious.challenge him . or ask him directly...you know for sure.
 

Nighthawk

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If you're hot, he wants to do you. If you're not so hot, he'll probably be up for doing you anyway. If you're fat and ugly, he probably wouldn't be flirting with you, unless he's desperate or into that. So on balance I'd say he's interested.
 

The Sperminator

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I flirt with one of my good female friends all the time but I don't like her like that. Just innocent flirting.
 

SilverSliver

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The fact that he does it while drunk may mean he needs liquid courage to flirt cause he's nervous. Try flirting with him when he is sober and see if he flirts back with you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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