"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Serious or just innocent flirtation?

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Hey guys,

FYI, I'm a female.

I've been friends with "Greg" for over 10 years now. We've supported each other through some very trying times over the past two years, which included dealing with some difficult breakups for both of us. IMO, we've always given each other straight-forward, honest advice when it comes to dealing with our respective relationships (i.e., no ulterior motives). We compliment each other often, and know that one another are a "great catch" for the right/lucky person.

I do believe we're both attracted to each other. Recently, we've began some pretty serious flirting, complete with sexual innuendo. Thing is, he's usually a bit tipsy when this flirtation takes place, and most of it is via text or email, so I'm finding it darn near impossible to tell if he's serious - if he'd really, truly be interested in "something," and what exactly that "something" would be has me even more confused. I've tried to be more blatant and obvious, to which he usually goes quiet or comes back with some coy response.

Help? Any other info you need?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jon55

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Tips, you post them here.

Questions go in Don Juan Discussion. Please try and actually read the little descriptions.
 

afrojiggles

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mmm....why dont you break the ice and lead the poor dude on and see what sognals he may give you ??? :cheer: :woo:
 

ARrocket

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yeah, you're in the wrong forum.

IMO it all depends on your gut feeling...do you really think he's into you, or is it just wishful thinking?

Increase the amount of physical contact....keep going until he becomes uncomfortable. If he doesn't, then you're in :)
 

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Sorry guys. I actually meant to post this in "The Mature Man." But thanks for the warm welcome.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've been friends with "Greg" for over 10 years now. We've supported each other through some very trying times over the past two years, which included dealing with some difficult breakups for both of us. IMO, we've always given each other straight-forward, honest advice when it comes to dealing with our respective relationships (i.e., no ulterior motives). We compliment each other often, and know that one another are a "great catch" for the right/lucky person


when he flirt, you should escalate the flriting to see if he is serious.challenge him . or ask him directly...you know for sure.
 

Nighthawk

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If you're hot, he wants to do you. If you're not so hot, he'll probably be up for doing you anyway. If you're fat and ugly, he probably wouldn't be flirting with you, unless he's desperate or into that. So on balance I'd say he's interested.
 

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I flirt with one of my good female friends all the time but I don't like her like that. Just innocent flirting.
 

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The fact that he does it while drunk may mean he needs liquid courage to flirt cause he's nervous. Try flirting with him when he is sober and see if he flirts back with you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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