Simply. Would you go out with a woman that is seperated, but not divorced?. There is a woman that I have met at the gym and we have really hit it off. She has been seperated for a couple of years, but her x wont agree to file. She hasnt seen or heard from this guy since then.
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Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
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I'd hit it, and have done it before. I bet she is easy you can hit it on the first date.
Why are they separated? Let me guess, he cheated on her. HAHA that's what they all say.
Why are they separated? Let me guess, he cheated on her. HAHA that's what they all say.
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Also, when I was 20 I dated a 27 year old seperated woman. She was still mooching off her husband, living in his house! I was a HUGE AFC at this point in my life.
The divorce was supposedly almost final. She even brought me into their house and introduced me to her husband! He was an Ex-Marine, could have broke me in half. But he seemed cool with it. Then, we went and banged upstairs while he was sitting downstairs watching TV.
I was too young to realize what I was doing was insane and stupid. I don't even think I realized they were technically still married and "seperated" doesn't mean anything.
I still can't believe I did that. I can't believe SHE did that to her poor ex husband. What a b!tch, and I played along.
The divorce was supposedly almost final. She even brought me into their house and introduced me to her husband! He was an Ex-Marine, could have broke me in half. But he seemed cool with it. Then, we went and banged upstairs while he was sitting downstairs watching TV.
I was too young to realize what I was doing was insane and stupid. I don't even think I realized they were technically still married and "seperated" doesn't mean anything.
I still can't believe I did that. I can't believe SHE did that to her poor ex husband. What a b!tch, and I played along.
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Being married and NOT being separated doesn't mean anything.My Name is Nobody said:I was too young to realize what I was doing was insane and stupid. I don't even think I realized they were technically still married and "seperated" doesn't mean anything.
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STR8UP said:Being married and NOT being separated doesn't mean anything.
Her husband must have been a bigger AFC than I was, letting his wife bring a boyfriend in his house, and he let us have sex a few feet away. I'm sure he could hear it.
Unbelievable.
My now ex-wife and I were separated but still living in the same house for a while. It didn't bother me that she was seeing other men, she had more problems with me seeing other women. But we still managed to do a double date one time - hers was James Iha from The Smashing Pumpkins.
I have gone out with women that are separated...and it is a LOT of drama.leeman67 said:Simply. Would you go out with a woman that is seperated, but not divorced?. There is a woman that I have met at the gym and we have really hit it off. She has been seperated for a couple of years, but her x wont agree to file. She hasnt seen or heard from this guy since then.
Dangerous drama.
By the way...she is LYING to you about the reason the divorce has not been finalized.
Maybe he didn't care. For all you knew...in his eyes she was a ho and he was the one munching out of her place.My Name is Nobody said:Her husband must have been a bigger AFC than I was, letting his wife bring a boyfriend in his house, and he let us have sex a few feet away. I'm sure he could hear it.
Unbelievable.
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One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I cant believe someone would have that little respect for themselvesMy Name is Nobody said:Her husband must have been a bigger AFC than I was, letting his wife bring a boyfriend in his house, and he let us have sex a few feet away. I'm sure he could hear it.
Unbelievable.
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Latinoman said:Maybe he didn't care. For all you knew...in his eyes she was a ho and he was the one munching out of her place.
That's true, he must not have cared because I looked him in the eyes and he smiled when she introduced me.
But after that night, she told me he had a talk with her. She told me he said it was "inconsiderate" of her to do what she did, and asked her not to do it again.
I am sure that's something a roomate would say something like that too. Trust me...if he would have cared...he would have probably killed you both and come with some "insanity" crap.My Name is Nobody said:That's true, he must not have cared because I looked him in the eyes and he smiled when she introduced me.
But after that night, she told me he had a talk with her. She told me he said it was "inconsiderate" of her to do what she did, and asked her not to do it again.
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Latinoman said:I am sure that's something a roomate would say something like that too. Trust me...if he would have cared...he would have probably killed you both and come with some "insanity" crap.
The story she gave me was that he cheated on her while overseas in the military. Then he told her about the affair, because he couldn't live with the guilt.
Then she divorced him but she couldn't survive on her own so he let her stay at his house.
Last time I checked she is remarried living with some new husband, I don't know what happened to the old husband.
She is lying. He probably dumped her (not the other way around)...and was allowing her to stay there until she found a place. I am sure he had NO desire to be with her and he allowed to stay there while getting some sex from time to time.My Name is Nobody said:The story she gave me was that he cheated on her while overseas in the military. Then he told her about the affair, because he couldn't live with the guilt.
Then she divorced him but she couldn't survive on her own so he let her stay at his house.
Last time I checked she is remarried living with some new husband, I don't know what happened to the old husband.
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WAS lying buddy...was.. this sh!t was like 10 years ago!Latinoman said:She is lying. He probably dumped her (not the other way around)...and was allowing her to stay there until she found a place. I am sure he had NO desire to be with her and he allowed to stay there while getting some sex from time to time.
She has told me no more then that He was lying to her for years and he left her. She lives in the home with her two children. Here is the additonal drama.
She currently is seeing a guy, but wants out of the relationship. too possesive. Wants to know where she is 24/7. She has thrown several hints that she is interested .
To this point, I have just kepted it at a friendship level. We never run out of things to talk about. I know. Im a trouble magnet... LOL
She currently is seeing a guy, but wants out of the relationship. too possesive. Wants to know where she is 24/7. She has thrown several hints that she is interested .
To this point, I have just kepted it at a friendship level. We never run out of things to talk about. I know. Im a trouble magnet... LOL
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In jurisdictions which have "no fault" divorce laws, either party is free to file by citing "irreconcilable differences" without reference or permission from the other party.leeman67 said:Simply. Would you go out with a woman that is seperated, but not divorced?. There is a woman that I have met at the gym and we have really hit it off. She has been seperated for a couple of years, but her x wont agree to file. She hasnt seen or heard from this guy since then.
She is telling you some serious BS for some reason.
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She is an habitual "branch swinger" .leeman67 said:She has told me no more then that He was lying to her for years and he left her. She lives in the home with her two children. Here is the additonal drama.
She currently is seeing a guy, but wants out of the relationship. too possesive. Wants to know where she is 24/7. She has thrown several hints that she is interested .
To this point, I have just kepted it at a friendship level. We never run out of things to talk about. I know. Im a trouble magnet... LOL
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
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