"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tao of Steve

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others have already mentioned this b4, but i think a new section, devoted to members say over 30, or over 25, or some such age would be good. it seems many member are in their teens and early 20's, and i think there is enough difference for guys who are in their late 20's, 30's and 40's etc. that there are some subtle distinctions to be made in dj ing. do others agree?

what do the moderators think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Paradox

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There used to be a forum for older DJ's. It wasn't popular so it was discontinued.

The High School forum was created though to address the younger DJ's.

Topic moved to Suggestions forum
 

Survivor

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Actually, bringing back the "Mature Man" forum may not be a bad idea. A few years ago there were only a few hundred active posters, and even fewer were over the age of 25. So I understand fully why it was discontinued.

But nowadays, active posters number in the thousands. Because of this big increase, there just might be enough posters to support a "Mature Man" forum this time around.

At least its something for Allen and the mods to look into.
 

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no no no

the're should be a forum for Relationships and another for dating/approachs.

GHOST
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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-HPNOTIQ-

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I'm all for a 25 and older section.

It's hard to relate to the DJ's out there in their teens and early twenties when the same discussion about college dorm room chics, meeting girls during frosh week, taking a girl home to mom's house, etc. keep comming up.

The mature DJ has different aspects of his life that make women a challenge: balancing a career and women, dating younger women, kids, divorce, etc.

It would be nice to have a forum section where advice to these topics are more 'user friendly' and easier to find.
 

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yah this would be great, under the general discussion rules (Discuss meeting, dating, and attracting women with others. Ask a question or give advice.) you could add: also NLP - based discussion, not that ive anything against the unusual techniques forum but it seems to be struggling at the moment.
then you could replace the unusual techniques with an older members forum and see how that goes. ( that would only be if you want all your discussion forums busy, i dont know how it works)
just a thought anyway.
 

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Here, here.

Maybe 30+ "Mature Man" is a little far. A 25+ "After College" forum would be of benefit to a lot of people though. It's a different game post-BBA.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by NMMWCR
Here, here.

Maybe 30+ "Mature Man" is a little far. A 25+ "After College" forum would be of benefit to a lot of people though. It's a different game post-BBA.
30+???!!! "Mature Man???!!!" What are you guys trying to say? Just because we're in our "Dirty 30's" or better, doesn't mean that we're a little far! WE CAN STILL HERE YOU Y'KNOW, WE AIN'T DEEF!!!!

Sorry, senility occasionally seeps through when I forget to take my meds... ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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