"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sent me a text while I was at work

BigKuta

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I dated this girl for a little while close to two months ago. I Haven't really bothered talking to this girl since I know she is dating another fella. I'm not sure how serious she is about the guy, but I haven't bothered calling her for the past 2 weeks. She has continued texting me though, but not as frequently as before, maybe once/twice a week. I usually give her bland responses and take my sweet time to respond.

I used to call her, but have stopped that and I think she is missing my attention. I feel like asking her out again.

She just sent me this text, while I am here at the office:

"howdy BigKuta. Just decided to say hi while I'm sitting here. Dude I need a tissue, my nose is runny cuz I have a little cold. Lol anyways I hope your school is going well!"

I don't really like texting since it feels impersonal, but I shot her this reply anyways

"hey, good to hear from you. My brother flys in today, so I get to leave the office early to go pick him up :). Hope all is well with you. I'll call you sometime, haven't talked in a while"

Now the question..Should I even bother calling her? Leave her hanging for a bit? Or just call her once I am out of the office?

DJ bros let me know how to proceed.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So,are you interested in this girl,or do you just want to keep her as a friend?
Because this really doesn't seem to be that hard of a situation. If you want to be just friends,then keep doing what you've been doing. However,if you want to date this girl,you simply need to ask her out. Pretty simple really.
 

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Igetit! said:
So,are you interested in this girl,or do you just want to keep her as a friend?
Because this really doesn't seem to be that hard of a situation. If you want to be just friends,then keep doing what you've been doing. However,if you want to date this girl,you simply need to ask her out. Pretty simple really.
Trying to get with her, or get some action at least haha
 

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Well since your tryin to get with her, never pass up opportunities. Give her a call whenever you feel like it. Make some small talk. Tell her you want to go out on (blank) day and what you plan on doing. If she says no she's dating that other feller, then you know to move on. If she accepts your invitation to the pants party, then you got a chance!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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