"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Sent girl a msg on site.. she deleted my msg and didn't reply..was my opener bad?

TT2CiN

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Lol ok so I'm browsing through the list of girls right and I see this girl whose 19 and good looking or whatever, but her profile is really empty and she lists her profession as BOA so I sent her this msg

" hmmm your profile is kinda bland, but ill give you a chance.. since you like working out like me.

so what does boa stand for? hopefully not bum on assistance, cause I like my girls rich (500,000+ a yr) :) "


Now reason I'm making this thread is that in my opinion that was at least somewhat funny and not a generic opener that any other guy would use, but thats just me, was that a really stupid thing to say(and my perception of good openers messed up), or did she delete it for another reason.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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wow, so you expect a 19year old girl to be making more than half a million a year

if this is the type of girl yo'ure targeting then perhaps they think or really are just of a higher class than you, and hence didn't even bother to reply
 

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onthepath said:
wow, so you expect a 19year old girl to be making more than half a million a year

if this is the type of girl yo'ure targeting then perhaps they think or really are just of a higher class than you, and hence didn't even bother to reply
it was a joke...
 

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what you probably encountered was 1 of two things:

A) A RECON PROFILE-one written for the sole purpose of info gathering. Specifically email enticements, may even be a man. read your email, dis-qualified it and deleted it.

B) PERPETUAL DATER- a chic on a quest to find the perfect man. She did not like the picture, what you wrote, was board and was just deleting emails to cut down on the several hundred other lame emails she gets.


But lets take a look at your email............
hmmm your profile is kinda bland, but ill give you a chance.. YOUR INITIAL NEG WAS HARSH........A LITTLE TOO ****Y AND SELF SERVING.

since you like working out like me. THATS THE CONDITION TO DRAW A COMMON INTEREST.......not very creative, dull actually.

so what does boa stand for? hopefully not bum on assistance, cause I like my girls rich (500,000+ a yr) AGAIN, IT DEPICTS YOUR LACK OF INTELLIGENCE AND NON-CREATIVITY. The obvious attempt at humor is completly lost with the mere mentioning of money.

YOU should learn how to seduce women with enticing emails, the right way.

Odds are she has a ton of these lame emails to delete.

Your email labled you as a JAG (just another guy).

You might want to try a humorous compliment opener, the whole I'll give you a chance is wasted and seldom works.

email enticements require several criteria to be effective, i could list some examples but that would appear I am condoning Net dating.

Net dating is for just starting out or really shy people.

To get more specifics........sheesh there are so many books............ummm U can try the all new Davagina code 2008.......tons of cute, lil email templates or net2bed system, Insiders Dating is clever also.
 

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She deleted it because it was a lame message. She probally laughed like hell at you. Give her a chance? She has no idea who you are and you have not given her a reason to even give you a chance. Switching it around doesn't work man. Your the one sending the message, your the one who has to impress her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Women who send me messages I'll delete theirs, even if I initiate, I'll delete her response. They go nuts over that, get drunk, self-sabotage, become lesbian.
 

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Some girls don't like talking to guys they dont know, even if you're really good looking; i know this for a fact..actually if a girl replies to my message, it shows how desperate and/or slutty she is. Things that i dont want in my girl.
 

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Hahaha, "Your profile is bland"?? She probably sees this as more of an insult than anything. Remember, she doesn't know anything about you. You could be a charming, witty guy, or you could be some weird internet creeper who wants to get in her pants REAL REAL BAD. I'm guessing she probably thinks you're the latter.

LOL. I'm actually laughing out loud about this. Try something more along the lines of "Hey, I've been seeing a lot of the similar profiles on this site, but yours definitely caught my eye. Tell me a little more about yourself."
 

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Tear Gas said:
Some girls don't like talking to guys they dont know, even if you're really good looking; i know this for a fact..actually if a girl replies to my message, it shows how desperate and/or slutty she is. Things that i dont want in my girl.
Not necessarily. You can't tell me a girl is desperate just because she RESPONDS to a message. Sure, you don't want a slutty girl, but you messaged her in the first place. If she didn't want to get messages and/or write messages, she wouldn't have gotten the account anyway, right?
 

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a lot of people get confused with c/f. you can't really use it online or text. it just doesn't come off right. i know this from experience. you should only use it in person, because ur delivery is very important. just stick to the basics. also a very poweful tool to use when texting or myspace...keep it short! You'll see why.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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COD said:
...Odds are she has a ton of these lame emails to delete.

Your email labled you as a JAG (just another guy).....
:yes: Bingo!
 
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