“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Sent girl a msg on site.. she deleted my msg and didn't reply..was my opener bad?

TT2CiN

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Lol ok so I'm browsing through the list of girls right and I see this girl whose 19 and good looking or whatever, but her profile is really empty and she lists her profession as BOA so I sent her this msg

" hmmm your profile is kinda bland, but ill give you a chance.. since you like working out like me.

so what does boa stand for? hopefully not bum on assistance, cause I like my girls rich (500,000+ a yr) :) "


Now reason I'm making this thread is that in my opinion that was at least somewhat funny and not a generic opener that any other guy would use, but thats just me, was that a really stupid thing to say(and my perception of good openers messed up), or did she delete it for another reason.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wow, so you expect a 19year old girl to be making more than half a million a year

if this is the type of girl yo'ure targeting then perhaps they think or really are just of a higher class than you, and hence didn't even bother to reply
 

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onthepath said:
wow, so you expect a 19year old girl to be making more than half a million a year

if this is the type of girl yo'ure targeting then perhaps they think or really are just of a higher class than you, and hence didn't even bother to reply
it was a joke...
 

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what you probably encountered was 1 of two things:

A) A RECON PROFILE-one written for the sole purpose of info gathering. Specifically email enticements, may even be a man. read your email, dis-qualified it and deleted it.

B) PERPETUAL DATER- a chic on a quest to find the perfect man. She did not like the picture, what you wrote, was board and was just deleting emails to cut down on the several hundred other lame emails she gets.


But lets take a look at your email............
hmmm your profile is kinda bland, but ill give you a chance.. YOUR INITIAL NEG WAS HARSH........A LITTLE TOO ****Y AND SELF SERVING.

since you like working out like me. THATS THE CONDITION TO DRAW A COMMON INTEREST.......not very creative, dull actually.

so what does boa stand for? hopefully not bum on assistance, cause I like my girls rich (500,000+ a yr) AGAIN, IT DEPICTS YOUR LACK OF INTELLIGENCE AND NON-CREATIVITY. The obvious attempt at humor is completly lost with the mere mentioning of money.

YOU should learn how to seduce women with enticing emails, the right way.

Odds are she has a ton of these lame emails to delete.

Your email labled you as a JAG (just another guy).

You might want to try a humorous compliment opener, the whole I'll give you a chance is wasted and seldom works.

email enticements require several criteria to be effective, i could list some examples but that would appear I am condoning Net dating.

Net dating is for just starting out or really shy people.

To get more specifics........sheesh there are so many books............ummm U can try the all new Davagina code 2008.......tons of cute, lil email templates or net2bed system, Insiders Dating is clever also.
 

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She deleted it because it was a lame message. She probally laughed like hell at you. Give her a chance? She has no idea who you are and you have not given her a reason to even give you a chance. Switching it around doesn't work man. Your the one sending the message, your the one who has to impress her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Women who send me messages I'll delete theirs, even if I initiate, I'll delete her response. They go nuts over that, get drunk, self-sabotage, become lesbian.
 

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Some girls don't like talking to guys they dont know, even if you're really good looking; i know this for a fact..actually if a girl replies to my message, it shows how desperate and/or slutty she is. Things that i dont want in my girl.
 

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Hahaha, "Your profile is bland"?? She probably sees this as more of an insult than anything. Remember, she doesn't know anything about you. You could be a charming, witty guy, or you could be some weird internet creeper who wants to get in her pants REAL REAL BAD. I'm guessing she probably thinks you're the latter.

LOL. I'm actually laughing out loud about this. Try something more along the lines of "Hey, I've been seeing a lot of the similar profiles on this site, but yours definitely caught my eye. Tell me a little more about yourself."
 

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Tear Gas said:
Some girls don't like talking to guys they dont know, even if you're really good looking; i know this for a fact..actually if a girl replies to my message, it shows how desperate and/or slutty she is. Things that i dont want in my girl.
Not necessarily. You can't tell me a girl is desperate just because she RESPONDS to a message. Sure, you don't want a slutty girl, but you messaged her in the first place. If she didn't want to get messages and/or write messages, she wouldn't have gotten the account anyway, right?
 

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a lot of people get confused with c/f. you can't really use it online or text. it just doesn't come off right. i know this from experience. you should only use it in person, because ur delivery is very important. just stick to the basics. also a very poweful tool to use when texting or myspace...keep it short! You'll see why.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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COD said:
...Odds are she has a ton of these lame emails to delete.

Your email labled you as a JAG (just another guy).....
:yes: Bingo!
 
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