"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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senior year. time to f*ck sh*t up! - By Scudge

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High school hasn't been the best time for me. Out of the past 3 years, I really only have 1 and a half worth remembering. I have only kissed one girl... Twice... And it sucked cuz I really didn't even like her that much and she flaked on me 3 times.

I can talk to girls... And I do a good amount of the time. ( not so much over the summer) But the problem is making something happen.

This definitely happened two times last year...
Ex. 1. This girl sat next to me in one of my classes. I don't even know how it got started, but she was flirting hardcore all the time and violating my personal space. :) she was pretty hot, but kind of emoish... Anywyay I asked her to homecoming and didn't show up. ( yeah, a **** move, but I couldn't bring myself to) I told her I wasn't attracted to her. (A lie) and we stayed friends.

Ex. 2. Another girl that sat next to me in class. She was new. Anyway, I didn't really start anything. We just kinda had casual conversation and one day, seemingly out of the blue, she goes nuts and makes me really uncomfortable, yet turned on at the same time. I really didnt reciprocate, so after a few awkward days, we stopped talking. A short while later, she got into a relationship with another guy.

I don't know exactly what made me do those things, but I tend to push people away when they get close. I really don't have any close friends because of this. I can talk to almost anyone at school. I do all the time. I look confident on the outside, but on the inside, I'm scared $hitless. I've been working on changing my personality for a long time. I used to be so shy, I couldn't talk to anyone, so I guess I'm making progress.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Things are going pretty well right now... I just have to figure out how to get RELAXED.

Otherwise, I've met/flirted with a few girls this week. Nothing further than that.

F*cking ****blockers! :trouble:
 
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Imagine getting to a relaxed state as climbing a mountain and then jumping down from it. The feeling of anxiety and un-comfort is climbing, then when you reach a certain level, it drop like a rock, and you're left with a relaxed, centered and confident feeling. You simply have to expand your comfort zone. Doing something that is very out of your persona (like going for the kiss immidiately with a girl) will give you a huge state pump, which may last the whole day, and have permanentish reprecussions.
 
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I like that technique. I really reminds me of some of the things I have been seeing in NLP.
Apparently your subconscious doesn't know how to tell time and you can use that to your advantage when visualizing the future.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I think NLP is cool, but I've never looked into it. I just know that Anthony Robbins was an NLP coach.
 
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BPH said:
What I don't understand is why you skimped out on going to homecoming with a hot girl then told her you weren't interested when you were?
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To make a long story short, I was nervous as fack and never "officially" asked her, though she thought we were going even though I told her I didn't like her like that... Ah, the things I regret...

Oh. And the NLP stuff really is just something I enjoy on the side. It helps a lot at times to know why you act a certain way and how to remedy it.
 
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Today didn't go so well.
I'm much more relaxed today, but I can't seem to figure out what to say to anyone but my friends.

So in order to break out of my comfort zone... I'm going to do some stuff outside of school. I'm not 100% sure of what kind of exercises I'm going to do yet, but I'm doing something.

Don't let me talk myself out of it. A little pain now = A lot of pleasure in the near future. :eek:
 
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