"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Sending out the Wrong Vibe?

GaryNas

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At a club I go to every week there's a girl (HB8) who I've gotten to know over the past few weeks. We danced and talked 3 and 4 weeks ago and things went well, but I was by no means "exclusive" to her either night... I gave the same treatment to many other girls. Last week I didn't show up and I found out she was asking one of my friends where I was. Fair enough, some IL level there, but I'm only interesting in talking with her and getting to know her, not trying to get into a relationship. She's a nice person and seems like she could be a good friend, but I want to leave it at that...

Anyway, enough background. This week she was there again so I talked with her a bit. I C&F'ed HB8 on something that she did 3 weeks ago, and that got me a few punches. At one point we danced again, but I kept my hands off, which I definitely regret now... I should be more aggressive, but that's another thread. End of the night comes and the last song is some slow jam and the MC tells everyone to find a partner and swap spit... I turn my head to talk to say goodbye to a girl who was leaving and HB8 jets it. So right there I think she believed I actually wanted to make out with her... I was surprised at this a bit though because I partially expected her to come-on to me, but she's super shy. So the night is done and on my way out I let her know she still owes me a drink for the incident 3 weeks ago... Then I tell HB8 to give me her MSN, but she says "it's long". I made a joking comment like "You didn't buy me a drink, you shut out my MSN request... I dunno." I then flashed a smile and said I'd see her next week...

So bottom line is, how should I play this next week? She seems really cool and I'd like to get to know her more, but just as a friend. Also, any anaylsis on her actions?

Thanks guys!!
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by _XT_
Forget MSN. Get her phone number man! And set up a date
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ehehehehe, that's not really my goal though. ;) Anyone have any further thoughts?
 

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Get the freakin' phone number... if she'll still want it next week.

Come on, E-MAIL!?!

Has our young Padawan not learned, women interpret alot of what you say through their '********' filter.

What does a woman say when she gives you her e-mail? "I don't want to hear your voice again, but I don't want to say no."

She probably feels partially rejected...

Go ahead and hit it with this girl, you don't need to have a relationship after.
 
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