I started talking to this girl on OK Cupid a couple weeks ago and we talked alot. We finally traded numbers and started texting back and forth. We went to different colleges but we're both home now for the summer and we live about 45 minutes from each other. Anyway I asked her out and she said she was busy that night but she would be free next week. Should I friend her on facebook now or wait it out until after the first date or even later? It doesn't make much difference to me but I'm wondering what the normal thing to do is. Thanks for your help!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Sending a FB friend request to a girl from OKC?
- Thread starter sh8716
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Keep girls off FB. If they friend request you, sure, you don't want to be awkward about it, but in general it's not a good idea to have "plates" on facebook. It just opens you up for obsessively scanning their profile, maybe getting jealous, and ultimately getting oneitis.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
Sending her a friend request out of the blue would come off as (1) creepy (2) needy (3) stalker-ish
Facebook can only hurt you. Women quickly size you up based on your profile and unless it's rock solid with lots of exciting pictures, friends commenting, girls chasing you, etc.. she'll probably think less of you.
I've added plenty of girls to FB without it affecting the courtship, but I've also added enough and never heard from them again or their interest tanked. Risk it if you dare...
Facebook can only hurt you. Women quickly size you up based on your profile and unless it's rock solid with lots of exciting pictures, friends commenting, girls chasing you, etc.. she'll probably think less of you.
I've added plenty of girls to FB without it affecting the courtship, but I've also added enough and never heard from them again or their interest tanked. Risk it if you dare...