I started talking to this girl on OK Cupid a couple weeks ago and we talked alot. We finally traded numbers and started texting back and forth. We went to different colleges but we're both home now for the summer and we live about 45 minutes from each other. Anyway I asked her out and she said she was busy that night but she would be free next week. Should I friend her on facebook now or wait it out until after the first date or even later? It doesn't make much difference to me but I'm wondering what the normal thing to do is. Thanks for your help!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Sending a FB friend request to a girl from OKC?
- Thread starter sh8716
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Keep girls off FB. If they friend request you, sure, you don't want to be awkward about it, but in general it's not a good idea to have "plates" on facebook. It just opens you up for obsessively scanning their profile, maybe getting jealous, and ultimately getting oneitis.
the_stig
Senior Don Juan
Sending her a friend request out of the blue would come off as (1) creepy (2) needy (3) stalker-ish
Facebook can only hurt you. Women quickly size you up based on your profile and unless it's rock solid with lots of exciting pictures, friends commenting, girls chasing you, etc.. she'll probably think less of you.
I've added plenty of girls to FB without it affecting the courtship, but I've also added enough and never heard from them again or their interest tanked. Risk it if you dare...
Facebook can only hurt you. Women quickly size you up based on your profile and unless it's rock solid with lots of exciting pictures, friends commenting, girls chasing you, etc.. she'll probably think less of you.
I've added plenty of girls to FB without it affecting the courtship, but I've also added enough and never heard from them again or their interest tanked. Risk it if you dare...