"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Semi-Blind Date Help

Gazing

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I'm a senior, recently there's been a rumor that a cute sophomore likes me so I put on my DJ face and asked her to lunch this Sunday.

She said yes. (Though I didn't confirm the location/time exactly yet)

We know almost nothing of each other so its pretty much a blind date. She seems to be one of the more passive kind.

Any tips on what kind of place to eat? What to do after?

General tips would be appreciated too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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alxrose04

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Atta boy! Way to hop on an opportunity! Stay away from the boring movie and dinner date. You're going to be forced to work too hard to push away the awkwardness. I say pick some type of activity where you guys are doing something physical. Something at the park, skating rink, museum, something like that. And when you get there, just act as you've been dating a long time. Take her arm and put it through yours, especially when you're crossing the street and say something like "Let me stop traffic. A lady is crossing." Pretty much little things that assume that you're already dating. Hope it helps and good luck!
 

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Get something to eat close to her house or school. Walk her to the bus or if you can walk her home.

Ask her if she has a dog. She'll say either yes, no, or why?

Say because you thought u heard something in the bushes (and point to some random bushes behind or infront of her to get her to look away. Lean in for a kiss on the cheek.

GL and props.
 

Gazing

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Thanks for the replies.

I settled a time and place with her. I decided on a nice (just slightly above average) casual place on a popular pedestrian street.

Apparently she's also very shy... which made her response even more surprising. Is there an article on how to deal with shy girls? (I'm actually kinda shy too)
 

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Shy just means unwilling to express oneself. This leads to awkward silences where one or both of you have something to say but don't say it, then start thinking about how weird it is that you aren't talking.

If you can tell something is on her mind, encourage her to express it. If there is an awkward silence, smile broadly and look in her eyes. Be open, smile and let positivity deliver good circumstances into your lap.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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