MacAvoy
Banned
First off, I didn't want to hijack the intimacy thread but LovelyLady made some points that hit home & got me thinking along with a recent discussion I had with guru about abundance mindset. To start off I've had women that I was in an LTR with tell me that I was disrespecting myself & my body because of the way I'll sleep with women that I'm not involved with.
I don't come across this often but its usually with women of high character & morals.
So here are a few things that lovely said:
However she makes a good point in bold. However my only rebuttle would be for the joy of sex and again that instictual difference.
As for her last statement about a high quality women being repulsed by it, I think its just the opposite, it goes to the A women would rather share a successful man than be straddled to a faithful loser. These high quality women obviously got into relationships with me, now mind you, they had no idea how many women I've been with but they certainly know I've been around the block more than once. However its only become an issue when things get ugly between us.
Then on the other side of the fence is guru's abundance mentality.
I don't come across this often but its usually with women of high character & morals.
So here are a few things that lovely said:
The part that got me at first was the lowering of the standards jab. My first thought was that this is what makes women different from men, how men are able to separate sex from intimacy and relationships.LovelyLady said:Often I see the same men who say they want a quality, intimate relationship/woman put time and energy into women/relationships without this. I know there is the philosophy here of just sleeping with the woman in front of you until the "bigger, better deal" woman comes along. But if you truly value a relationship of quality - how is it you are willing to lower your self in giving your self to a person that is less than what you say you believe you are worthy of?
If you truly require a woman who can truly meet you as an equal mature quality feminine counterpart - then I do not understand why there is all this settling going on.
If a person truly is comfortable "being alone" than he/she is not giving/wasting his time in relationships that do not satisfy his entire frame.
Is that high quality Woman you want going to be attracted to your low quality woman frame? No. She is going to be repulsed by it. She won't settle for second best in her Man - and she is not going to want a man who doesn't command respect for his wants and needs being met either.
However she makes a good point in bold. However my only rebuttle would be for the joy of sex and again that instictual difference.
As for her last statement about a high quality women being repulsed by it, I think its just the opposite, it goes to the A women would rather share a successful man than be straddled to a faithful loser. These high quality women obviously got into relationships with me, now mind you, they had no idea how many women I've been with but they certainly know I've been around the block more than once. However its only become an issue when things get ugly between us.
Then on the other side of the fence is guru's abundance mentality.
guru1000 said:For one with an Abundance Mentality to settle down, he must meet an exceptional women that is many leagues ahead of his harem. In other words, I must associate an enormous amount of pleasure to find ONE to surrender the pleasure I recieve from dating many.
Awareness of this fact is what separates the Naive AFC from the Genuine DJ.
In the end, I think I answered my own question but would still like your thoughts. I guess what makes me question it isguru1000 said:This is the GOAL.MacAvoy said:I think your better off keeping your harem around until that one that is leagues ahead of everyone else appears.
How many AFC"S do we know that have settled down due to their scarcity mentality. They have settled down only because ANY woman who accepted them brought them more pleasure than being SCARCE.
The best time to settle down is when one is in ABUNDANCE. This will GUARANTEE the one you CHOOSE to be leagues ahead of the harem. This is the correct pretense for true compatibility. Remember one with true abundance will usually continue that mindset into an LTR. He recognizes his ability to attain with ease.
ps sorry for the super long post but I wanted to get their quotes in there.LovelyLady said:however believe that if you want to create an intimate bond with a quality woman (or as a woman want a relationship with a high quality man)- then you have to be one yourself.
The true foundation of being one is because you respect your self. You genuinely recognize your real value. The byproduct is that you do attract higher quality people because the entire energy of your life resonates at that frequency.
If you lower the bar and choose to settle for less, you will attract less. A woman of high character with a great capacity for love and intimacy is not going to give herself to a man who does not guard his own value - and therefore cannot recognize and appreciate her complimentary value.
If a man compromises in the key area of his primary romantic relationship - who he chooses to be intimate with - what other areas is there lack of strength and integrity in?