ok so I met this backpacker chick last night (friday night oz time) and got her number. we were talking about things to do in my town and clubs to go to. should i call her tonight and suggest i show her around some of the clubs or touristy spots? what do you guys think?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
self proclaimed Non-Juan met a chick last night what do i do now?
- Thread starter theCouch
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
brucevangeorge
Banned
Go drinking then to your place.... then fvck her.theCouch said:
stubbornlights
Don Juan
You're asking THAT?
I admit, I'm no DJ myself. But the answer to your question is blatantly obvious. Lets review:
1) You met a backpacker chick.
2) Spoke to her about clubs and things to do in town.
3) She gave you her number.
Oh... yeah, I guess you probably SHOULDN'T call her. theCouch, it's the weekend, she's a tourist, you have her phone number, she wants to see some stuff around town. Give her a ring! You don't need to worry about wait 3 days bull**** or any other nonsense. Just give her a ring, head out and show her the spots. You're in a position to lead, too; being the local, you're in charge, you're the guide. Awesome. So call.
...just a suggestion, however it may be unfeasible: think you have time to read the DJ Bible before tonight? It'd be worth it.
I admit, I'm no DJ myself. But the answer to your question is blatantly obvious. Lets review:
1) You met a backpacker chick.
2) Spoke to her about clubs and things to do in town.
3) She gave you her number.
Oh... yeah, I guess you probably SHOULDN'T call her. theCouch, it's the weekend, she's a tourist, you have her phone number, she wants to see some stuff around town. Give her a ring! You don't need to worry about wait 3 days bull**** or any other nonsense. Just give her a ring, head out and show her the spots. You're in a position to lead, too; being the local, you're in charge, you're the guide. Awesome. So call.
...just a suggestion, however it may be unfeasible: think you have time to read the DJ Bible before tonight? It'd be worth it.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Come on your a NON-JUAN!!!
What do you think your doing? You make the plan to go to the touristy spots with her, than you find every possible excuse to make your plan fail!!!
Who do you think you are? A DON JUAN?
sheesh, kids think they're so stupid these days! You could easily make yourself look worse mister
What do you think your doing? You make the plan to go to the touristy spots with her, than you find every possible excuse to make your plan fail!!!
Who do you think you are? A DON JUAN?
sheesh, kids think they're so stupid these days! You could easily make yourself look worse mister
Maximus Rex
Banned
What To Do
theCouch: Hey, what's up? how are you doing?
Backpacker Chick: Nothing much.
Engage in mindless conversation about her doings that day for about two minutes.
theCouch:When are you having dinner?
Backpacker Chick:about 9:00.
theCouch, well I'm having drinks at________Come and meet me at 10.
The Backpaper chick will either agree to meet you or say she'll say has other plans.
You don't want to do they all thing with her for the following reason: 1) Unneccessary Expenditure. While your out she'll want to eat or grab a some sort of knick knack. (Remember, she'll assume that this is a date and you'll be picking up the tab.) 2) The longer your out with her, the more likely you'll say or do something that will turn her off. Women are always looking for reason not to have sex with you. It's like Miranda Rights. Anything you say can be used against you.
You goal is to spend the lest amount of money and time. If she agrees to meet you for drinks proceed as normal. Express you interest in her sexually, use KINO, then try to get her back to your from a "Trent Reznor," session.
If you like effin' her, and you like her as a person and she's been your girlfriend for a about 4-6 months then take her to the club and touristy spots.
I agree with Bruce. The aim is TO SPEND AS LITTLE MONEY AS POSSIBLE!!! Let an AFC do the tourist thing with her. Call her in 3 days and this is how the conversation should go:brucevangeorge said:
theCouch: Hey, what's up? how are you doing?
Backpacker Chick: Nothing much.
Engage in mindless conversation about her doings that day for about two minutes.
theCouch:When are you having dinner?
Backpacker Chick:about 9:00.
theCouch, well I'm having drinks at________Come and meet me at 10.
The Backpaper chick will either agree to meet you or say she'll say has other plans.
You don't want to do they all thing with her for the following reason: 1) Unneccessary Expenditure. While your out she'll want to eat or grab a some sort of knick knack. (Remember, she'll assume that this is a date and you'll be picking up the tab.) 2) The longer your out with her, the more likely you'll say or do something that will turn her off. Women are always looking for reason not to have sex with you. It's like Miranda Rights. Anything you say can be used against you.
You goal is to spend the lest amount of money and time. If she agrees to meet you for drinks proceed as normal. Express you interest in her sexually, use KINO, then try to get her back to your from a "Trent Reznor," session.
If you like effin' her, and you like her as a person and she's been your girlfriend for a about 4-6 months then take her to the club and touristy spots.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
man, you all give horrible non-juan advice
Where's your inner AFC?
Where's your inner AFC?
Maximus Rex
Banned
It's A Guideline
Dude, my suggestion like everything else on this site IS A F*CKING GUIDELINE!!!! Make adjustments as neccessary. If 7PM is a more optimal time, then 7PM it is. Be warned, though she might not have eaten yet. So have some food on deck at the house. Or have a nice inexpensive resturant that you can go to. ONLY DO THE RESTURANT IN ORDER TO "CLOSE THE DEAL!!!"
The important thing is find out when she's eating and meet her after she's filled her gut. If she's having breakfast at 10, you meet her at 11AM, if she's having lunch at one, you meet her at 2PM. Stay focused on the goal, which is to spend as little time and money on her as possible.
theCouch said:
Dude, my suggestion like everything else on this site IS A F*CKING GUIDELINE!!!! Make adjustments as neccessary. If 7PM is a more optimal time, then 7PM it is. Be warned, though she might not have eaten yet. So have some food on deck at the house. Or have a nice inexpensive resturant that you can go to. ONLY DO THE RESTURANT IN ORDER TO "CLOSE THE DEAL!!!"
The important thing is find out when she's eating and meet her after she's filled her gut. If she's having breakfast at 10, you meet her at 11AM, if she's having lunch at one, you meet her at 2PM. Stay focused on the goal, which is to spend as little time and money on her as possible.