"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Self Improvement

zekko

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I've been thinking about self improvement lately. After all, the unofficial motto on this forum is "work on yourself", right? So I started thinking about the general categories that you could improve yourself in. This probably makes it easier to identify areas you can work on. Here's what I came up with:

1. Finances
2. Physical
3. Social
4. Mental/Spiritual
5. Hobbies/Skills

Then you could break these down into subcategories:

1. FINANCES
generate more income
work on career
spend less
budget better

2. PHYSICAL
diet/nutrition
exercise
manage any diseases (quit smoking for example), dental care, health care

3. SOCIAL
love life
sex life
relationships, friends, family
grooming, hygiene, style, appearance (improve your wardrobe or whatever)
converstaional skills

4. Mental/Spiritual
Inner Peace
Inner Dialogue
Reading to increase knowledge, either generally or specific areas, current events

5. Hobbies/Skills
improve skill in sports or hobbies you're interested in
create something, if you're into carpentry make a piece of furniture, if you're a musician write a new song, if you're a painter paint a picture, etc.


I think most everything you can improve can be put into one of those five categories. Anybody have anything else to add?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have been wanting to make a self improvement journal for a while. You made the organization a lot easier! Maybe you could add places to socialize under social? It looked very dead on though, maybe there isn't much to add then?:cool:


Could you clarify inner peace and inner dialogue?
 

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It looked very dead on though, maybe there isn't much to add then?
Thanks for taking the time to comment. I do think the five categories are pretty complete, but obviously it can be better organized into subcategories for sure.
I was thinking one area that a lot of people need to improve on is time management. I suppose that would go under Mental though.

Could you clarify inner peace and inner dialogue?
Inner Dialogue is just basically what they call Inner Game around here. How you talk to yourself, not being negative. Thinking "I'm the sh!t" instead of "I'm a loser". Being confident.

Inner Peace is trickier. Some people are generally happy and at peace and other people live their lives in turmoil. Some people don't know how to be happy, or calm. For some people, spirtuality is not very important - for others it's very important. So I wanted something to address that without getting specifically into one religion, because I'm sure people here have a wide variety of beliefs.
 
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