"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MackJr

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I'd like some feedback on this. I'm at the point that if I want to achieve my goals, it's going to take a lot of hard work.

I work 8-5, so I figure if I drive home and have dinner, I have from 6:30 to 10pm on weekdays to work on my goals. This is what I'm thinking of doing:

1 hour of fun (video games, tv, reading, etc)
1 hour of studying making money (business, accounting, finance)
1 hour of working on my game/relationships.
30 minute workout.

Saturdays would be reserve for special events and sundays would be for catching up on chores and cleaning.

I think if I do something like this consistently, for about 3 months or so, I should start to see results.

How does this sound? I did add fun in there each day and also on Saturdays.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WORKEROUTER

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Sounds like a plan.

It's easy to lose sight of goals and resort to mediocrity; this is why discipline is so important.
 

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Depends on what you're trying to achieve

We can't tell if it's a good plan because we don't know what you're trying to achieve.
 

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Re: Depends on what you're trying to achieve

Originally posted by Dominant
We can't tell if it's a good plan because we don't know what you're trying to achieve.
On the making money side, I want to ultimately start a software business that lets me not have to work for an employer. My short term goals are learning the college courses Accounting, Microeconomics, Macroeconomics, Finance, and Marketing Then learning sales and persuasion and combining them with my existing software skills to create a company.

On the relationship side, I want to get so good at picking up women that I can essentially decide, "I want to have sex on monday" and have that happen, even if I don't have a girlfriend up to say that Saturday before. And it has to be seduction--no prostitutes, I'd never do that.
 

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Originally posted by MackJr
I think if I do something like this consistently, for about 3 months or so, I should start to see results.
You might see results with everything except the working out part... 30 minutes is nothing, but thats covered in depth in Health & Fitness...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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try 30 min of cardio and 40 -45 min of lifting wieghts. Sign up for a gym. Find some in your area. From work to gym... maybe go to gym before you go to work... you start work at 8 get up at like 6;30 eat breakfast and go to gym..
 

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Instead of having the same reutine every day, schedule in blocks. Work out 3 days a week for 1 hour. Go to bars/clubs and work on game for 3 hours, two nights a week. It's more realistic this way. I'd also ditch your 10 O' Clock bed time if you plan on practising your game, at least on the days you go out. I hope you even meant you'd be going out to work on game/relationships - you can't work on it here or anywhere else online unless you want to be a keyboard jockey.
 
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