Self Hate

[LesaneCrooks]

Lately, I have noticed a major problem in my social life, which was kind of a surprise. I often find myself assuming the worst, as in that people are thinking bad things about me and such. this isnt just in romantic situations, but in all situations. This isnt about my confidence with girls, so much as my overall self health. I feel a lot of Self Hate, which can never be good. Anyone else have this problem, and anyone have a way that helped them to overcome it? (Meditation, things like that, what works?..."

Thanks a bunch

 

[Zaraza]

Hey man, its funny how this is, i dont know if i completely understood what you are saying. i wasnt depressed i was just unhapy with myself....you have to change it. Its tough to do, but it happened just one day. I woke worked out in the morning, and went to school. The first people i saw i just cracked into their group started joking around. Smile to everyon ein the halls, make sure to approach some chick.

other then that, ever morning you wake up, compliment yourself.

When other people dislike you, its hard to avoid but try to. Look at it this way, they dislike you cuz you bother them, so why not bother them more???

people dont kill me its my first post ahha.

 

[kegger]

I used to have the same problem through Jr. High and into my freshman year. I figured out a few things that help. One is to do things you like no matter what others have to say, if they say something about it just think to yourself that they are stupid and don't know what is fun. Take that last phrase a little farther, think of yourself as always right, if you think yourself always wrong it will really bring you down. Also talk it up a bit with other people, who cares if they think they are better than you, being in the lower class level of the school I had a interesting conversation with the home coming queen runner up. I hope these help.

 

[LesaneCrooks]

its wierd, i know my good qualities, however i still have that inner gut reaction to think a certain way. It holds me back in every part of my life. I do agree with you though, the best way to fight it is to pull a Nike and "just do it".

 

[Zaraza]

I like the way Keg said it, i dont know if this will help you. But pick up a martial art, Tae Kwon Do, or Karate ( it builds confidence and control over mind ). Always remember your doing this for yourself noone else!.

oh and dont forget to dance woo: :cheer: :woo: )

 

[kegger]

another thing that helps, sounds odd, but helps is just as you are going to sleep repeat many times to yourself what ever you want to feel, this is a great thing to do. I works with all situations.

 

[The Antichrist_Star]

Everyone else feels the same way kid.

What will separate you from 99% of the population is not letting a silly little thing like doubt or insecurity get in the way of whatever you want to do.

Good luck...

AS

 

[SynapsyS]

One of simplest things I do daily is to assume that me > you. In everything. Of course, you will be proven wrong occassionally, but self confidence usually wins over at just about everything.

Oh, and start using the word Awesome a lot. I always say stuff like "But, that's simply because i'm awesome", and it helps. It's also a good word, that not many people use in such a regular manner.

Gl.

 

[johnmich]

I dont think i ever hated myself, just others. My brother is the most annoying little b*stard ever, so i hate him in stead.

- not HATE hate just brother hate
- I just fight him

Thers an idea, get a punchbag and hit it when angry. Its easy really