***NOTE: THIS POST IS LONG! YOU DONT HAVE TO READ IT BUT IF YOU WANT TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE THEN THIS WILL HELP!***
Special thanks to Kaizen, for showing me this stuff, and for improving my life in a way I only could of dreamt of before i met him.
What i am about to tell you, will help you in ALL walks of life, not just girls.
Self improvement
You all know how important it is, it is the basis of all our DJ skill's. Everything we have done because of this site somehow revolved around self improvement, for example, when this site motivated you to talk to that HB and ask her out, that was a result of your new and improved confidence. When you succesfully macked a girl, that was a result of your new and improved conversation/body language/kino skills. It is VERY important for a person to be constantly improving, if a person isn't constantly aspiring to be greater, he may as well be dead. So now you all know how important self improvement is, let me ask you a question.
Is this site really helping you improve your life?
I mean sure, it may teach you how to be confident, how to get the ladies, and other things. But do you see.. you DEPEND on these people to improve your life, that's not the way any person is supposed to live. You shouldn't DEPEND on anyone, anyone succesful in life, doesnt depend on people, they go out and make breaks for themselves. To help you better understand what im giving to you here im going to give you a qoute.
"You can give a man a fish and feed him for a day, or you can teach him how to fish and feed him for a life time"
Now having given you that qoute let me try and tell you this again. People on this site are in fact GIVING you fish, you depend on these people to be fed, if they dont give you fish, you starve. On the other hand if someone was to come along and teach you HOW to fish(That's me) then you will have food for a life time. Now im going to give you a question.
Do you want me to give you fish?
Or do you want me to teach you to fish?
Well if you want me to give you fish, then im not going to, hit the back button on your browser and let those people give you fish. On the other hand if you want me to teach you to fish, then stick around.
But before I say anymore, let me get this straight, by NO means am i telling you to go away and never come back to this site again. You will see later in my post that this site is important, and can help you improve, but you just have to use it in the right way. I mean there's no harm in extra fish? Just make sure you dont depend on being given those fish.
Okay so now im going to stop referring it to fishing and am now going to refer it to improving youself. Because im going to teach you 2 methods of improving yourself (Both that i use, Once again a HUGE amount of credit goes to Kaizen). Well I dont want to waste any more time, here they are:
Self Evaluation
What is self evaluation? Self evaluation is a technique that you use to improve yourself (Duh!). How do you use self evaluation? Whoa!, slow down hot shot, first im going to tell you a little about making mistakes. I LOVE making mistakes, I LOVE failing, it's great!!!! The bigger the mistake, the more you learn from it, and the more you improve from it. Here is something Kaizen told me:
Firstly, i want you to go out and buy a little booklet about wallet sized that you can write in. As your day goes I want you to write down bit's and piece's about it, just a couple of word's that will jog your memory of what happened later. Then that evening before you go to bed, i want you to get out your book and recap over the day, and think of every little aspect you could of improved upon, how you could of handled a situation better, how you could of managed your time better, how you could of increased profficiency, even how you showered or brushed your hair. This is all it takes, it's so simple, and it works! Remember you dont have to write in your booklet straight away just make sure you write in it while it is still fresh in your mind. A mistake you can make is when you dont get a booklet then that evening you can't remember all the aspects of your day, that will slow down the self evaluation process. Okay so that's about it, if you have any questions on self evaluation and the evaluation of others, just let me know.
BEAR cycle, Even more credit to Kaizen
I use this and it's great, I still haven't properly harnessed it's power so i can't go in to detail. Maybe if Kazien is lurking around he may be able to reply to this thread and help me out.
BEAR
Belief
Energy / Excitement
Action
Results
This is the BEAR cycle, a cycle of improvement. First you have to have belief in something, maybe you gained this belief while in the self evaluation process, but all you need is one belief to get you started. Belief ussually comes from self evaluation or trusting another person(trusting a well known poster on this site wouldnt be a bad idea). So now you have belief all of a sudden you have "Energy and Excitement" so you out into the real world and take action, and with that action you get results. Once you have been given results, this give you more belief's and the cycle of improvement continues.
Here's an example Kaizen gave me:
Okay so that about wraps it up, but before i leave i want everyone to know that I like this site, it's a great way to evaluate others to help my course of improvement, im just saying you shouldnt depend on this site. Once again special thanks to Kaizen.
Special thanks to Kaizen, for showing me this stuff, and for improving my life in a way I only could of dreamt of before i met him.
What i am about to tell you, will help you in ALL walks of life, not just girls.
Self improvement
You all know how important it is, it is the basis of all our DJ skill's. Everything we have done because of this site somehow revolved around self improvement, for example, when this site motivated you to talk to that HB and ask her out, that was a result of your new and improved confidence. When you succesfully macked a girl, that was a result of your new and improved conversation/body language/kino skills. It is VERY important for a person to be constantly improving, if a person isn't constantly aspiring to be greater, he may as well be dead. So now you all know how important self improvement is, let me ask you a question.
Is this site really helping you improve your life?
I mean sure, it may teach you how to be confident, how to get the ladies, and other things. But do you see.. you DEPEND on these people to improve your life, that's not the way any person is supposed to live. You shouldn't DEPEND on anyone, anyone succesful in life, doesnt depend on people, they go out and make breaks for themselves. To help you better understand what im giving to you here im going to give you a qoute.
"You can give a man a fish and feed him for a day, or you can teach him how to fish and feed him for a life time"
Now having given you that qoute let me try and tell you this again. People on this site are in fact GIVING you fish, you depend on these people to be fed, if they dont give you fish, you starve. On the other hand if someone was to come along and teach you HOW to fish(That's me) then you will have food for a life time. Now im going to give you a question.
Do you want me to give you fish?
Or do you want me to teach you to fish?
Well if you want me to give you fish, then im not going to, hit the back button on your browser and let those people give you fish. On the other hand if you want me to teach you to fish, then stick around.
But before I say anymore, let me get this straight, by NO means am i telling you to go away and never come back to this site again. You will see later in my post that this site is important, and can help you improve, but you just have to use it in the right way. I mean there's no harm in extra fish? Just make sure you dont depend on being given those fish.
Okay so now im going to stop referring it to fishing and am now going to refer it to improving youself. Because im going to teach you 2 methods of improving yourself (Both that i use, Once again a HUGE amount of credit goes to Kaizen). Well I dont want to waste any more time, here they are:
Self Evaluation
What is self evaluation? Self evaluation is a technique that you use to improve yourself (Duh!). How do you use self evaluation? Whoa!, slow down hot shot, first im going to tell you a little about making mistakes. I LOVE making mistakes, I LOVE failing, it's great!!!! The bigger the mistake, the more you learn from it, and the more you improve from it. Here is something Kaizen told me:
I'm not telling you to be a genious, im not telling you to be wise just yet, because right now i bet your stupid. Your not learning from your mistakes, and let's take it one step at a time, once your smart, then you can be wise. Just dont take to much on or else chance's are you will quit and give up. Okay having said that im going to tell you how to do it.
Firstly, i want you to go out and buy a little booklet about wallet sized that you can write in. As your day goes I want you to write down bit's and piece's about it, just a couple of word's that will jog your memory of what happened later. Then that evening before you go to bed, i want you to get out your book and recap over the day, and think of every little aspect you could of improved upon, how you could of handled a situation better, how you could of managed your time better, how you could of increased profficiency, even how you showered or brushed your hair. This is all it takes, it's so simple, and it works! Remember you dont have to write in your booklet straight away just make sure you write in it while it is still fresh in your mind. A mistake you can make is when you dont get a booklet then that evening you can't remember all the aspects of your day, that will slow down the self evaluation process. Okay so that's about it, if you have any questions on self evaluation and the evaluation of others, just let me know.
BEAR cycle, Even more credit to Kaizen
I use this and it's great, I still haven't properly harnessed it's power so i can't go in to detail. Maybe if Kazien is lurking around he may be able to reply to this thread and help me out.
BEAR
Belief
Energy / Excitement
Action
Results
This is the BEAR cycle, a cycle of improvement. First you have to have belief in something, maybe you gained this belief while in the self evaluation process, but all you need is one belief to get you started. Belief ussually comes from self evaluation or trusting another person(trusting a well known poster on this site wouldnt be a bad idea). So now you have belief all of a sudden you have "Energy and Excitement" so you out into the real world and take action, and with that action you get results. Once you have been given results, this give you more belief's and the cycle of improvement continues.
Here's an example Kaizen gave me:
I asked him what if you get bad results, surely that would not give you more belief? He replied.,.
Okay so that about wraps it up, but before i leave i want everyone to know that I like this site, it's a great way to evaluate others to help my course of improvement, im just saying you shouldnt depend on this site. Once again special thanks to Kaizen.
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