She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How come?Originally posted by wjh
i don't want to seek therapy, either lol
i've beenOriginally posted by Lifeforce
Start weightlifting. It will help your self esteem and your depressed state of mind.
i don't want to feel brokenOriginally posted by MrBond_Age
How come?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
WOW.... your post makes me feel good about my advice to wjh.Originally posted by MrBond_Age
As a future therapist, I read many articles and studies regarding how benefical friends are vs therapists when it comes to minor problems. The studies has shown that both of these cathegories of "helpers" are equally good.
The main goal of a therapist is to trick you into a positive state of mind might it be by fallicious assosciations or not. Therefore if you can get better by yourself (no depression) than no need is required.
This is what I go through every day as well. There is no easy answer that I have found. Just keep doing the things you have listed and do your best at them. Message me if you want to talk.Originally posted by wjh
i'm in college, i'm busy studying, working, and going to the gym but i feel like i have no real social life, that i have no good friends, no hobbies, none of that...
but sometimes i feel so worthless
I felt like this about a year ago. Things have definately gotten better since. Just keep on doing what you're doing. Learn to take risks too.i'm in college, i'm busy studying, working, and going to the gym but i feel like i have no real social life, that i have no good friends, no hobbies, none of that...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.