I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How come?Originally posted by wjh
i don't want to seek therapy, either lol
i've beenOriginally posted by Lifeforce
Start weightlifting. It will help your self esteem and your depressed state of mind.
i don't want to feel brokenOriginally posted by MrBond_Age
How come?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
WOW.... your post makes me feel good about my advice to wjh.Originally posted by MrBond_Age
As a future therapist, I read many articles and studies regarding how benefical friends are vs therapists when it comes to minor problems. The studies has shown that both of these cathegories of "helpers" are equally good.
The main goal of a therapist is to trick you into a positive state of mind might it be by fallicious assosciations or not. Therefore if you can get better by yourself (no depression) than no need is required.
This is what I go through every day as well. There is no easy answer that I have found. Just keep doing the things you have listed and do your best at them. Message me if you want to talk.Originally posted by wjh
i'm in college, i'm busy studying, working, and going to the gym but i feel like i have no real social life, that i have no good friends, no hobbies, none of that...
but sometimes i feel so worthless
I felt like this about a year ago. Things have definately gotten better since. Just keep on doing what you're doing. Learn to take risks too.i'm in college, i'm busy studying, working, and going to the gym but i feel like i have no real social life, that i have no good friends, no hobbies, none of that...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.