self esteem vs ego

[jhonny9546]

SELF-ESTEEM:
- You are born with it, just like you are born with arms and legs.
- You possess it as a child until it is damaged; it can take years to rediscover and "re-member" the self-esteem you had as a child.
- It does not need to be fed; it is self-sustaining.

EGO:
- The ego is a rational construct that we devise as a substitute for self-esteem when the latter has been damaged to the point where it no longer provides security.
- Gaining status, making money, and attracting women—these things allow us to logically tell ourselves, “I am confident.”
- It differs from self-esteem because self-esteem is an INNATE ATTRIBUTE OF HUMANS, while ego is a PSYCHOLOGICAL CONSTRUCTION CREATED BY HUMANS.
- The ego is fueled by repeated attention, praise, and appropriate reactions, among other factors.



So when someone says, “That guy has way too much ego,” they are essentially saying, “That guy is learning, based on some logical construct, to give himself confidence because he is a wounded little boy who lacks self-esteem.”

In other words, a person with “too much ego” comes from a place of weakness, not strength.

 

[plumber]

Can you define self-esteem more? What is it, how does it work? If it is broken how to fix it?

 

[BaronOfHair]

Those are two different words for things which are interchangeable. Starting in the latter half of The 70s though, it became heretical think of the ego in anything other than moralistic terms, thus the more wishy washy word "self-esteem" began getting circulated throughout The Anglosphere

The (ultimately diasterous)assumption here being "Ego always bad; Self-Esteem indisputably good". Whereas in all era prior, we recognized that the ego was akin to a surgeon's scalpel: Whether or not it benefits both the individual and civilization at large depends heavily upon the proficiency of whoever is wielding it

 

[jhonny9546]

Whether or not it benefits both the individual and civilization at large depends heavily upon the proficiency of whoever is wielding it

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