"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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self esteem tip

johnny_depp

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well if anyone feels like s*it try this out.

The first method recommended to develop self esteem is to have goals you are working towards. An activity on how to build self esteem is to record in a diary three concerns that you have in your life. Now simply write down some practical steps you can take to help resolve them. Review your progress after a week and continue to do so. Taking even small steps forward will boost your level of optimism and increase your self esteem. Keeping a diary is a very important tool in developing high self esteem, so the next recommendation we have also makes use of a diary.

Much of the pain of depression and low self esteem has been found to stem from our critical thoughts. Because they become habitual and automatic they act to maintain our pessimism and prevent us from building self esteem. Often we don't even notice we are doing this to ourselves. Once you become aware of these negative put-downs, write them in your diary. Then, alongside, argue against them. For example, if your thought was "I'm hopeless, I always mess things up". You could dispute this by saying "No, I don't always mess up. I may have made a mistake this time, but I'm only human. This doesn't make me a bad person. In fact, I often get things right." By continuing on these lines, you'll draw the sting of your internal critic and can start to gain more self esteem. Our final technique discussed here can also be put into your diary: visualizing a better future.

Visualizing your ideal future is often recomended for attaining goals and it can also work as part of how to build self esteem and confidence. But don't mistake this for daydreaming which is ineffective. An essential part of this method is to compare your imagined future with how reality is now. That way, you'll feel dissatisfied and increase your urge to change things. As mentioned before, moving towards yor goals will help lift your mood, relieve pessimistic thoughts and build your self esteem.

hope I helped. :up:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JAS760

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I'm actually gonna try this out, i have really low self-esteem T_T
 
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