"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Self-Control

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Do you always wonder why you fall in love so easily? Do you get angry when criticized? Do you strike back when insulted? All of these problem indicate a lack of self-control.

Self-control is the ability to become a master of your thoughts. Most people run around like chicken's with their heads cut off when they are faced with a problem. They allow their emotions to control them. If you let external forces control you, then you are not in control of yourself and other people can easily manipulate you and take advantage of you. Successful people do not allow themselves to be controlled by other. Do you want to be successful? Read on.

In order to develop self-control, you need to have a firm grasp of what your emotions mean and you need the ability to recognize these emotions and remove them. It is all in how you think. It has nothing to do with getting girls, and yet it has everything to do with it. When your girl gives you sh*t, you feel angry, or you get scared, or whatever. What you do is recognize the feeling immediately and change it to a positive. Tell yourself you are the best motherf*cker alive at that moment. Take control of who you are, and do not react to her, only acknowledge her, and then go right back to doing what you believe is correct.

If you have a negative thought, you turn it into a positive. You feel every emotion that runs through you and you remain confident, enthusiastic, and poised. You tell me you don't respect someone who can remain calm and confident in all situations, you better believe that is a man of high self-control. Nervous ticks will go away and other people's opinion's will brush off of you because you know you are the sh*t despite what anyone else says.

I am still learning how to master this art, but I believe I have already undergone some change. I would have days where I felt depressed. Now whenever depression begins to sink in, I turn around the thought and think about how great life is. If I think about a girl I was caught up on I turn off the thought and get back to work.

You can literally control what thoughts go in and out of your brain. You become non-reactive, and get what you want because you completely aware of how you feel at any given moment. Give it a try, anyone can do it!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Rep coming your way. Very well put.
 

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I don't believe it's possible to control your emotions per se, rather you can control how you react to them.

You have to face the fact that you're human and sometimes in life you'll feel sad, angry, happy. You just have to learn to control your reactions to these emotions and make them work in your favour (although again, this is something I'm still working on)
 

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My response is my responsibility. That pretty much sums it up.
 

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I was an AFC all the way up to 23-24, finally grew up and got my crap together. Never had problems getting a women attention just would blow it due to lack of self control, confidence.

34 now and recently got dumped, ex said I wasn't emotional enough for her. Go to find out I was just a rebound fling and she wasn't over her EX LTR who apparently is very emotional. Bahaha, I don't care why you telling me this. Turns out she was really insecure too, she loved & hated how confident I was. NEXT
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SteR said:
I don't believe it's possible to control your emotions per se, rather you can control how you react to them.

You have to face the fact that you're human and sometimes in life you'll feel sad, angry, happy. You just have to learn to control your reactions to these emotions and make them work in your favour (although again, this is something I'm still working on)
Agree completely, you will feel these emotions, and that's okay. It's all about how you react when these difficult times in your life occur. Do you fold under pressure? Or do you take control of yourself and find a solution to your problem?

Slutty girls exhibit a lack of self-control. They aren't always looking for d!ck guys, but they lose their inhibitions very easily. That's why they typically regret their one-night stands. These types of girls are undesirable long term.

The nice guy also demonstrates lack of self-control. Guy wants his d!ck sucked so bad he resorts to embarrassing tactics. He can direct himself in life because he is controlled by his emotions. This "man" is also undesirable long term.

Control your mind, control your actions, follow your dreams
 
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