Naughty Ninja
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How many of you have seen or known a "hottie" from the past who now looks like crap? Ever been in "love" with the "perfect" woman from afar or in real life and seen her years later and thought to yourself: "WTF was I thinking?!"
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Seen a hottie in the past who now looks like crap?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
jafyk
Master Don Juan
Yes, my man yes o! I remember this girl I was talking to in college some years ago. I think I asked her her and her response was "I have a boy friend". Well, I saw her recently and I was disgusted by what I saw and it just amazed me how people can let themselves just go like that.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
karma is good!
the girl who fuc.ked me over (we all have one of those) used to be a super hottie, i looked her up on FB - now she looks just kidna "meh"
but maybe really i should thank her for ultimately getting me into being a better man with good game....?
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was also a super hottie from my high school (she actually fancied me for a bit but i didn find out till way after and i wouldnt have known what to do anyway) is now a chubby one!
guys isnt it amazing how many girls go "down hill" very quickly after finishing school??
the girl who fuc.ked me over (we all have one of those) used to be a super hottie, i looked her up on FB - now she looks just kidna "meh"
but maybe really i should thank her for ultimately getting me into being a better man with good game....?
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was also a super hottie from my high school (she actually fancied me for a bit but i didn find out till way after and i wouldnt have known what to do anyway) is now a chubby one!
guys isnt it amazing how many girls go "down hill" very quickly after finishing school??
spinaroonie
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Men age like wine.
Women age like milk.
Women age like milk.
Poonani Maker
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Ain't that the truth. You should see all my co-workers' wives. Ugh. I'll say under my breath, "Is This your Wife!?" - signed, Happily Singlespinaroonie said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
zekko
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This works in reverse too.
I remember several girls in high school who were considered ugs, but then a few years later transformed into some pretty smoking hot babes. Meanwhile, the cheeleader who was the prettiest girl in school had put on major pounds and blimped out. Sometimes life has a funny way of evening things out.
I remember several girls in high school who were considered ugs, but then a few years later transformed into some pretty smoking hot babes. Meanwhile, the cheeleader who was the prettiest girl in school had put on major pounds and blimped out. Sometimes life has a funny way of evening things out.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
You were thinking that you wanted to bang her when she was in her 'hot' stage , and now her "inner beauty" doesn't get you hard?Naughty Ninja said:
This is why guys like you (and me ) are called "shallow"
.kingsam
Master Don Juan
the ugly ducklings...zekko said:
Kailex
Master Don Juan
I've actually been going out with someone just LIKE THIS.zekko said:
Upon the topic of high school, she frowned. I was curious since I assumed her being "beautiful" meant that she had a relatively enjoyable high school life. Apparently high school had been REAL tough on her.
She showed me a picture and sure enough, lo and behold, a woman who I wouldn't have touched with a 10 foot pole. She'd been locked into a few lockers by jocks that had nothing better to do.
They missed out. All she needed to do was let her hair down, get some contacts, lose the coke-bottle thick glasses and get some new clothes.
You're right, the universe definitely has a way of making things fall into place.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I dated a stripper for about a year. This was roughly 15 years ago. She added me on Facebook a few months ago and she is dog rough now. She looks like she couldn't care less about her appearance, which is odd as she used to be obsessed with how she looked.
Naughty Ninja
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The point of this thread is what you may have thought was a diamond as far as looks in the past may be just a lump of coal.
That is if you only care about looks. Like other posters said this can work in reverse. Get to know women before you put the pvssy on a pedestal or decide they aren't up to your 'looks' standards.
That is if you only care about looks. Like other posters said this can work in reverse. Get to know women before you put the pvssy on a pedestal or decide they aren't up to your 'looks' standards.
new_hotness
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It happens quite a bit. Especially in the US where people just put on weight randomly.
The Piano Master
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This happens every now and again, but my radar for hot chicks is a little sharper than most. However, when it does happen it certainly is a tragedy.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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most of the time its ugly girls that turn hot but theres a few hot girls from back in the day that are trash now.