"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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seemed like a good idea, but now i wonder...

cNfny

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this girl i was just hanging out with who i have been seeing every now and then had broken up with her long term bf in may.

he works at a local theatre

tonight she mentioned that she saw her ex last night and they were catching up a bit and that he was dating someone.

so whatever i get off that convo quick and later on i suggest we go to a movie this week. she says i should get my ex to let us in for free and i was like oh great idea.

but now i'm thinking, is this her way of making him jealous in a sense? or am i over analyzing?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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:nono: Beware of becoming the "Rebound Guy."
 

cNfny

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Beware of becoming the "Rebound Guy."
she has talked to another guy before me so i'm not worried about that. but i have a hunch she wants to make her ex jealous since he's dating someone now. not sure what to make of it... should i mention it to her?
 

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Yes she is trying to make her ex jealous.

What to do?

Ask for you two to go somewhere else on a date, come up with a few ideas, you should be leading anyway.

If she says nuh i really want to go to the theatre though, then you know you're answer- she's using you as a tool to make her ex jealous. If this is the case, next her, she's trouble and merely a user.
 

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And one last thing, don't mention it. It'll make it look like you care (Insecure)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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