"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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seemed like a good idea, but now i wonder...

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this girl i was just hanging out with who i have been seeing every now and then had broken up with her long term bf in may.

he works at a local theatre

tonight she mentioned that she saw her ex last night and they were catching up a bit and that he was dating someone.

so whatever i get off that convo quick and later on i suggest we go to a movie this week. she says i should get my ex to let us in for free and i was like oh great idea.

but now i'm thinking, is this her way of making him jealous in a sense? or am i over analyzing?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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:nono: Beware of becoming the "Rebound Guy."
 
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Beware of becoming the "Rebound Guy."
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she has talked to another guy before me so i'm not worried about that. but i have a hunch she wants to make her ex jealous since he's dating someone now. not sure what to make of it... should i mention it to her?
 
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Yes she is trying to make her ex jealous.

What to do?

Ask for you two to go somewhere else on a date, come up with a few ideas, you should be leading anyway.

If she says nuh i really want to go to the theatre though, then you know you're answer- she's using you as a tool to make her ex jealous. If this is the case, next her, she's trouble and merely a user.
 
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And one last thing, don't mention it. It'll make it look like you care (Insecure)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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