"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Seem confused!

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payaya

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Hey all

I just got out of a 2 years relationship early this year, and i have been doing well for myself!! I have seriously lost count of the amount of girls, even their names for that matter!

My problem is not a confidence issue etc, but more im getting over picking up!!!

I usually go out Fri/Sat nights and pick up the woman, and contact is usually lost or i dont bother chasing after that!!

The last few times I've gone out i didnt feel the need to pick up and really wasnt interested, but just wanted to have a good time with my mates etc.

Am i stuck in a hole or something?? And im not gay far from it!!!!

thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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pimpfromdayone

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I think it is more a matter of motivation. For me on some days I actually have almost no interest in messing with women, but these are often the best days for you because you don't have to FAKE zero interest, you have zero interest. Sometimes a man just doesn't want to fu-ck with anyone, and that is ok, but when you're in the zone and macking like a maniac, you more than make up for it.

You mention that you "don't bother chasing after that [contact]" so I think you also need to rethink your game. Walking away when you have a girl who isn't interested is one thing, but walking away really early on because you didn't even try is another thing entirely. Some guys take it too far and continually quit early because a woman offers a little resistance or doesn't jump on them with 100% interest. This is a mistake. I believe that yes, you have to treat them like you could care less what happens, but you can't be completely passive or nothing will happen at all. Not taking any action at all is just as bad as trying too hard... you have to be somewhere in between.

You have the right attitude, you just have to change your plan of action. I do understand your occasional disinterest in playing games with women... it gets old sometimes.
 
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Don't cats just chase and kill food for fun and not eat the prey - its probably something like that...
 
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