"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Been seeing this girl for a couple of months. She is 27, successful, intelligent and attractive. She is also, in my estimation, extremely sensitive. Case in point....she asked me to bring a screwdriver by her office in preparation for a company function. I told her I would bring her a mechanical one and she said she didn't know how it worked. I replied I was sure someone with a college degree could operate it. She got really pissed about that, said she thought I was talking down to her. That wasn't the intention, was just kidding with her. Anyone care to offer an opinion?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jitterbug

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Incompetent entitled feminist princess with no sense of humour.

NEXT.
 

taiyuu_otoko

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sandman007 said:
That wasn't the intention, was just kidding with her. Anyone care to offer an opinion?
What was the intention? Why did you feel the need to mention that it was a mechanical screwdriver up front?

Women are very perceptive. I suspect you did intend to razz her a bit for not knowing how to operate a mechanical screwdriver, and she picked up on it.

Some chicks are sensitive, and will get upset if you razz them too much. Some are allergic to peanuts and will die if you sneak them into the spaghetti without telling her. Some have even been known to drink whiskey straight out of the bottle.

There's two, very broad (get it, broad?) mindsets:

Get to know the girl you're gaming, and learn to be flexible enough to communicate and behave with her accordingly. You tend to get better results (e.g. more and better sex) that way, but it can be more difficult to keep track.

On the other hand, there's the "my way or the highway" mentality. Just be yourself irrespective of who you're with, and next those that aren't a good fit. You won't have as many successes, but it's much easier this way.

Your call.
 

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I would give her one more chance. One more little 'insecurity' tantrum and she's.......NEXT!!!!! Cool chicks that are confident and have their heads together have a sense of humor!!
 

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sandman007 said:
Been seeing this girl for a couple of months. She is 27, successful, intelligent and attractive. She is also, in my estimation, extremely sensitive. Case in point....she asked me to bring a screwdriver by her office in preparation for a company function. I told her I would bring her a mechanical one and she said she didn't know how it worked. I replied I was sure someone with a college degree could operate it. She got really pissed about that, said she thought I was talking down to her. That wasn't the intention, was just kidding with her. Anyone care to offer an opinion?
Tell her if she is going to have no sense of humor, she can go screw herself.

You're over-analyzing this incident.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dark god

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squirrels said:
You're over-analyzing this incident.
Thats what Im thinking. Bro if this little minor sh*t is got u baffled..I hate to see u when a woman throws u a REAL curve ball. Is this even thread worthy?
 

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squirrels said:
Tell her if she is going to have no sense of humor, she can go screw herself.
What you did there... I SAW IT.

And it's hilarious. Thanks for all the weird looks I just got at the office.
 

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Jitterbug said:
Incompetent entitled feminist princess with no sense of humour.

NEXT.
This ^^ were my thoughts.

IF you pay close attention to these small reactions from her EARLY in the piece, you will get a glimpse of her real personality UNDER the contrived flirty "sweet girl " presentation.

I would call "strike one " on this.
 

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Really wasn't analyzing, it just threw me for a loop because most women would have realized I was kidding and we would have laughed about it together. I've been told I have a good sense of humor and I do try to be entertaining although I can come across as a smart azz. This girl says because of the way men have treated her in the past, she is really sensitive to anything she perceives as criticism. It's disconcerting because we have good chemistry, the sex is incredible, and she has many of the qualities I desire in a woman but I see a disaster in the making if she is gonna take everything so personal. Not sure I could change who I am at 42 even if I wanted but have always thought a man who tried changing his persona to satisfy a woman was making a huge mistake.
 

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This girl says because of the way men have treated her in the past, she is really sensitive to anything she perceives as criticism.
Red flag...

Make sure you don't develop feelings for this broad (and if you already have, you should 'next' her now to save yourself). And watch for cluster B signals, seriously...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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for the most of them, women have no sense of humor and take everything literally. pitty...can smell LSE women here.
walk away !
 
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