"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Second chance.

DubstepGuy

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So, i made a couple posts about a girl i liked on here 2 years ago. I didn't fail with her per-se, our contact sorta dwindled. However We started catching up last night over facebook (we used to live next to eachother but i moved a mile away and we don't see each other) and talking about how we used to stay up all night blah blah, then i gave her a couple of compliments. Now its like a reversal, she's talking about how she's got low self confidence and how i've got so much more confidence than before, then she starts talking about us meeting up again. What would my best course of action be? bearing in mind i want to be in a relationship with this girl?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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thunder_god

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Just the fact that you mention that you want to be in a relationship with her already tells me your in a losing battle. You need to get rid of that mindset and be outcome independent. As for what you should do at this point, is if she suggests you two meetup, then go meetup. Be flirtatious, funny, and just have fun with her. If she seems interested then escalate and go for the kiss. Then further escalate tell you sleep with her.

Also don't forget to spin plates.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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I got in to a situation like this with a bird I used to date (and bang) a few years back. Met up with her again at the beginning of this year, but hadn't really improved myself that much since I dated her previously.

Needless to say I saw her a couple of times, but nothing so much as a kiss on the cheek: NEXT and escalate own worth.

Carry on if you think you can wow her in to the sheets. Otherwise, crack on man.
 

DubstepGuy

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I suppose 1 years worth of no contact paid off. I got a message saying "I'm such a good girlfriend" she seems attracted but its mixed at the moment.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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