"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sean Connery tells us when it's approprate to smack a woman

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"I'd never hit a woman, but I'll shake the sh!t out of one." Cris Rock
 

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I think Connery is right but it's not going to work on most of todays women. If a woman is crossing the line to the point where a normal guy is ready for violence she might call the cops for domestic violence out of spite if she gets slapped.

Any woman being that stupid should get dumped and be walking out the door ten seconds after that crap comes out her mouth.
 

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Real_Deal said:
Any woman being that stupid should get dumped and be walking out the door ten seconds after that crap comes out her mouth.
31 years man. I'm willing to bet, ALL women go down that road they shouldn't eventually.
 

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azanon said:
I smell something fishy here. Two folks with March/April 08' join dates saying never to smack your woman. You guys/gals from LS?
Yeah, those newagers banned me for outing a mod.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Isn't acting out just on your emotions a female trait? If you need to smack a woman around like she's a dude, you don't deserve respect anyway.
 

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Da Realist said:
Isn't acting out just on your emotions a female trait? If you need to smack a woman around like she's a dude, you don't deserve respect anyway.
I see you're from Memphis. I was born and raised in Memphis, the wrestling capital of the world. Sometimes you gotta lay a smackdown on your woman. http://youtube.com/watch?v=Is0oHPL-nis
 

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Da Realist said:
Isn't acting out just on your emotions a female trait? If you need to smack a woman around like she's a dude, you don't deserve respect anyway.
B|TCH don't you argue with Mr. James Bond, who does you think you are, B|TCH??? :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Da Realist said:
Not a guy who runs when he sees gay folks....
To be fair, his fear might be of homosexual behavior, not of certain individuals who practice the behavior.

Personally, I've never been a big fan of referring to people by their behaviors, since all-in-all, it tells you so very little about a person. Case and point, I like to play tennis but I'd look at you very strange if you called me a "tennis person".
 

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Once, when my wife was pissed off at me, one of my kids asked, "where are you going mommy?"

When she answered, "to go find a new husband," I asked her to come back the bedroom and proceeded to smack her across the face. She knows it was wrong to say this and I doubt she'll ever say something like this again, at least not with me.
 

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Luthor Rex said:
A long time ago I would have said "never smack a woman"...

Now that I understand how most women are actually children trapped inside of an adult's body, I'm not so sure.

Maybe a spanking on the butt like her daddy did.

edit: Actually, if I were ever in a relationship with a woman and I felt the need to smack her, I think I'd just end the relationship.
What?! Are you saying that you would smack a child?
 

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Ok....if you tend to act gay all the time, you're gay. Same thing goes with wifebeaters: if you say you slap your wife from time to time, you are a b*tch.
 

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Papermoon said:
I wouldn't consider wearing leather tights if he had recommended them, so why should I take any hint from him on anything else?

Oh, I bet you might after all, if he was asking you in person.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Paradox said:
It seems like he doesn't just haul off when he feels like it. He says in the interview that she provokes him.Do some women desire and need this? Whatever the reason the women take actions to bring on this punishment. Could it be that they miss their fathers dicipline, need attention, want a man to take control of them....ect?31 years is a long time especially for a hollywood superstar. He has done over 60 movies.
Think about the Caveman, dudes..... how did caveman keep his chick(s) on check? hair pulling, a few smacks, etc
It's all instinct to a woman. Right or wrong, most women fantazise about their partner being more of a caveman than a gent...

Personally i think that if a woman feels that you've got the balls to put the smack down on her ( if provoked by her ) that will do as well as actually having to b!tch slap her. :crackup:
 

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Sean Connery is old school and beside's most women will put up with a little bit of slapping in exchange for millions of dollars and never have to work or lift a finger a single day of their lives.
 
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Good for him. Unapologetic, but not cruel or mean-spirited. He could have backtracked and immediately started in on how he was wrong to say such a thing and that he's reformed and whatnot, but he volunteered "I haven't changed my opinion." instead.
 

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If you're ever in a position where your woman needs to be smacked, then you've failed badly somewhere down the line. You should never even be in this situation. Dump her before it reaches that point.
 
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