"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Screwed up situation

Wiesman44

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I've been seeing this girl for about a month now. We weren't dating, but considered ourselves friends w/ benefits. We hung out 3 times, made out, woulda boned once, but parents were home. Then she got her period one week (no sex). Then the next week we get into this HUGE argument. We both agree that we don't know each other very well, and that we should hold off on hooking up til we become friends. I only hung out w/ her 3 times in a months time due to our schedules.

So we're almost good again, no more arguments, everything is settled. I dont want a relationship w/ this girl. I just want to screw her once. I have another girl im working on, so I'm not going to next her til i get her.

Thing is, she says I have little to no game. After the crap we've been through together, i don't blame how she could say so.

FOr some reason she still likes me. She said to me last night, I know you like me, u don't need to admit it and she said "i'd be lying if I said i didnt want to make out with you."


SO apparently I have little game, but I will hang out w/ her again even though we're friends and she still wants to hookup with me in the near future. Is this not the most screwed up situation ever ? How the hell do I recover from this ? I'm not going to next her b/c i enjoy her company, as little time i do spend w/ her. Its like, she expects to like me more, she's very attracted to me, she thinks I'm gorgeous.

I do have game, just havent used it on her. She constantly made me feel uncomfortable w/ her strong personality, and the way she was. NOw im beginning ot get used to her and can use some game on her.

I really dont know what to do. Can I possibly recover from this situation ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wiesman44

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not gonna happen. I want to recover from this somehow. i want advice on how to do that.
 

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Stop worrying about what women say and base your actions on what they do.
 

Wiesman44

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Thank you......thats actually very good advice........Next time i hang out w/ her, we'll see :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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