"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Screwed her interest so soon...

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Starting friendship with her 2 months ago, talked on daily basis and had a lot of fun. Thing's were getting awesome day by day, and we were getting to know each other more and more.

We shared all our problems and became very open to each other.

Now thing's have started getting downgraded since this month started. She's seems distant and talk less, and share less stuff with me.

After thinking a lot on this, I've realized that she's losing interest in me because of me being too much available to her. I always replied to her texts, attended her calls - within seconds. And as a result i became predictable.

So i talked to her about why she's getting distant and she says the reason is her studies so she don't get enough time to talk, else she is interested and like to want to keep the friendship.

I don't think it's the "Real" reason because if she used to talk allot then why not now. Her texts and body language still indicates that she's interested in me but she's spending very little time with me and we had not talked 1 day even.

Please give some advice's on how to regain her interest back. Are there any proven ways winning it back?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nice job working your way into the friend zone dude. You were a good orbiter for her until she started getting uncomfortable with your intense feelings. Next time man up ask her out early. You can't friend your way into love.
 

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What i am asking here is, is there any solution to the problem or any proved tricks, games etc to bring back the old interest?
 

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Man XP said:
What i am asking here is, is there any solution to the problem or any proved tricks, games etc to bring back the old interest?
Wait 3 days. Call her up like a man. No texting like a girl. Ask her out on a date for 3 days or more out. Specific place, specific day, specific time. During the week, no weekends. If she says yes great. Don't contact her until the date. If she says no, maybe or is wishy washy I have good news for you. You can drop her. And there are millions of other girls for you to chase and actually do things right.
 

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She will most likely contact me within those 3 days, and agree, there are millions of girls.

Anyways, this same situation happened three times before too, she was losing interest, but i got busy in studies so tried to give less attention to it and then she started talking and all got well. It happened 3 times already. The only reason it happened i guess is that i gave too much attention too early.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Man XP said:
She will most likely contact me within those 3 days, and agree, there are millions of girls.

Anyways, this same situation happened three times before too, she was losing interest, but i got busy in studies so tried to give less attention to it and then she started talking and all got well. It happened 3 times already. The only reason it happened i guess is that i gave too much attention too early.

You'll be alright. Everytime it happens just make sure you learn and do a better job the next time. Don't give away the store so early and don't try to friend your way into love.
 

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Look, if you like a girl, there is no shame in stating that you are guy and find her attractive. You ask her out for something cheap like coffee and you escalate from there while never displaying neediness.

If she says no, flakes on you, well there you go, you have your answer, you know where you stand. All this is done in a very short time, not months and months of secret worshiping while she is getting jack-hammered Peter North style by some other dude and you are at home pullin your pud.

We all got shot down here, but we live to bang another day. Ask and you shall know.

Good luck.
 

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So your in the friend zone .... she has NO SEXUAL INTEREST IN YOU AND.NEVER WILL. Sorry.man she sees you only as a friend. You said this is the third.time it happened well time to change your game up. Read the DJB and apply. And notice how when you put less attention into this.girl she came back to you? Mhm less is.more in the game.

Now read the DJB or the tips and come back here with questions. Good luck
 
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