"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Screw online dating, Sosuave. I'm going direct!

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I used to be successful in the past with online dating. However, most of the girls were low quality.

I have had enough with the whales on POF, OKC, and other similar websites. Online dating will only make you feel insecure and weak. If you actually want to get some quality hb's I suggest you go direct.

The positive side of going direct is if it works, then you're golden. However, if she's not into you, then it's over and you get rejected. As long as you learn not to fear rejection, you will be fine. I rather be rejected in my face than to waste time sending out dozens of messages and receiving no responses. Always remember that getting rejected is better than not approaching. No approach is failure; you fail when you DO NOT approach. I'm determined to eliminate my approach anxiety regardless of how "painful" it becomes because regardless of how hard it gets, I know it will be less painful than knowing how I'm missing out on quality women.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've thought about this too. The women I have hooked up with from OKC have mainly been of low quality. There are just too few good women out there.

Once in a while a confident woman I've never met will make eye contact and smile in random situations. This is definitely the green light to simply ask her out directly.
 

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Im actually thinking about deleteing my OkCupid and POF profile for that reason. I met some really cute girls on there but most of them were low quality and just not worth it.

^^Strong join date Serg, what were u 14 when u found this site? lol
 

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golden words, brother!

Skrew online dating. Them good looking girls receive hundreds of messages from other guys, they don't even view most of them because there are so many.

However out there in real world, when you go direct it is just you and her. You will however have more success stories if you go direct after the girl noticed you and gave you IOIs
 

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Crissco said:
^^Strong join date Serg, what were u 14 when u found this site? lol
Thats right! I was a lurker for a long time. And too young to understand/apply anything I read until I was maybe 18. Its amazing that I still come back here....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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