"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Screening her before you ask for her digits.

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Wow, I have gotten so good at this that it blows my mind.

I have learned to get them talking to the point that they tell me all the shyt that is going on in their lives. From there I just walk away from the basket cases.

I have gotten to the point that I have refused their numbers, telling them that they have lots of stuff in there lives and I have more interesting things to do than to be part of their drama.

I must say, I have done over 5K approaches since I was 21 and all this practice has paid off.

I think all of us in this board will eventually develop this art into a science. :woo: :D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Sapiens
Wow, I have gotten so good at this that it blows my mind.

I have learned to get them talking to the point that they tell me all the shyt that is going on in their lives.
Isn't that a good thing ? I personally would never tell some stranger about my persoanl business unless im interested (and feel comfortable) in that person.
 

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Yea, that's the point. If the newbies just get out there and practice they will have more Pussi than they can handle.

Sometimes I get blown off, then I come here, run a search and BANG there is the answer!
 

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Great stuff. I am really interested in pre-screening girls. Saves a lot of time.

If you dont mind, please post your 'default' opener and first few questions or stories.
 

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Originally posted by locarius
Great stuff. I am really interested in pre-screening girls. Saves a lot of time.

If you dont mind, please post your 'default' opener and first few questions or stories.
locarius,

My shyt is real simple, just like your post above, you show interest in what I have to say and most of us can't resist talking about ourselves.

I will post my technique when I get home so you can give me some constructive criticism. On a side note, I use the djbible fundamentals adapted to my natural game.

Cheers,

-Sapiens
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The wonders of 'qualifying.' :up:
 

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Locarius,

First I open with EC and a smile, if she responds the game is on.

Second I compliment any accessory she is wearing, I NEVER compliment their physical beauty.

Me: Hey, those are nice shoes, who makes them?
Her: Oh, thanks, I don’t know my mom got them for me.
Me: Wow, your mom has good taste, what was the occasion?
Her: Blah, blah, blah….

Or

Me: Hey, nice watch, who makes it?
Her: Thanks, it’s an Omega.
Me: Wow, you got taste. You probably got your sense of style from your mom huh?
Her:Yea.
Me: How about your dad, does he have style like you?
Her: No, my dad died when I was little….blah, blah, blah

Or

At the mall, HB looking at shoes:

Me: Wow, so many choices huh?
Her: Yeah, I am trying to decide on a color, I like the red but if I get a second pair its ½ off.
Me: Why don’t you take the blue ones, they look really nice.
Her: Yeah, I know but I don’t have an outfit for those.
Me: We are at the mall you know, lots of outfits here. <smile>
Her: <smile> blah, blah, blah

You get the picture; here somewhere is a post that communication is +/- 10% verbal and 90% body language. This I found out to be true. If the woman is interested in me she will give me EC, smile. If she doesn’t find me attractive she will not give EC, smile.

So with all my consistent practice I have come to be able to read their body language.

Also, all the practice has enable me to forge balls of steel! That is how I have achieved a high level of confidence.

So my budding DJs, get out there and practice, practice, practice.

-Sapiens
 

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Wow, thats all?? So much shorter than the DJB, I think I can follow that advice pretty easy ;)
 

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sikpupy, see my prior post about the DJB.

Sparky, 25-35. But not younger than 23, too much immaturity and drama.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yea I think your method would likely work best on more mature women. The girls who are sick of playing games.

I find that the women I am interested in, 19-22, you almost have to play games with them to get them remotely interested.
 

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Originally posted by locarius
Yea I think your method would likely work best on more mature women. The girls who are sick of playing games.

I find that the women I am interested in, 19-22, you almost have to play games with them to get them remotely interested.
yeap.. me too
 
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