"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Screening her before you ask for her digits.

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Wow, I have gotten so good at this that it blows my mind.

I have learned to get them talking to the point that they tell me all the shyt that is going on in their lives. From there I just walk away from the basket cases.

I have gotten to the point that I have refused their numbers, telling them that they have lots of stuff in there lives and I have more interesting things to do than to be part of their drama.

I must say, I have done over 5K approaches since I was 21 and all this practice has paid off.

I think all of us in this board will eventually develop this art into a science. :woo: :D
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by Sapiens
Wow, I have gotten so good at this that it blows my mind.

I have learned to get them talking to the point that they tell me all the shyt that is going on in their lives.
Isn't that a good thing ? I personally would never tell some stranger about my persoanl business unless im interested (and feel comfortable) in that person.
 

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Yea, that's the point. If the newbies just get out there and practice they will have more Pussi than they can handle.

Sometimes I get blown off, then I come here, run a search and BANG there is the answer!
 

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Great stuff. I am really interested in pre-screening girls. Saves a lot of time.

If you dont mind, please post your 'default' opener and first few questions or stories.
 

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Originally posted by locarius
Great stuff. I am really interested in pre-screening girls. Saves a lot of time.

If you dont mind, please post your 'default' opener and first few questions or stories.
locarius,

My shyt is real simple, just like your post above, you show interest in what I have to say and most of us can't resist talking about ourselves.

I will post my technique when I get home so you can give me some constructive criticism. On a side note, I use the djbible fundamentals adapted to my natural game.

Cheers,

-Sapiens
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The wonders of 'qualifying.' :up:
 

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Locarius,

First I open with EC and a smile, if she responds the game is on.

Second I compliment any accessory she is wearing, I NEVER compliment their physical beauty.

Me: Hey, those are nice shoes, who makes them?
Her: Oh, thanks, I don’t know my mom got them for me.
Me: Wow, your mom has good taste, what was the occasion?
Her: Blah, blah, blah….

Or

Me: Hey, nice watch, who makes it?
Her: Thanks, it’s an Omega.
Me: Wow, you got taste. You probably got your sense of style from your mom huh?
Her:Yea.
Me: How about your dad, does he have style like you?
Her: No, my dad died when I was little….blah, blah, blah

Or

At the mall, HB looking at shoes:

Me: Wow, so many choices huh?
Her: Yeah, I am trying to decide on a color, I like the red but if I get a second pair its ½ off.
Me: Why don’t you take the blue ones, they look really nice.
Her: Yeah, I know but I don’t have an outfit for those.
Me: We are at the mall you know, lots of outfits here. <smile>
Her: <smile> blah, blah, blah

You get the picture; here somewhere is a post that communication is +/- 10% verbal and 90% body language. This I found out to be true. If the woman is interested in me she will give me EC, smile. If she doesn’t find me attractive she will not give EC, smile.

So with all my consistent practice I have come to be able to read their body language.

Also, all the practice has enable me to forge balls of steel! That is how I have achieved a high level of confidence.

So my budding DJs, get out there and practice, practice, practice.

-Sapiens
 

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Wow, thats all?? So much shorter than the DJB, I think I can follow that advice pretty easy ;)
 

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sikpupy, see my prior post about the DJB.

Sparky, 25-35. But not younger than 23, too much immaturity and drama.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yea I think your method would likely work best on more mature women. The girls who are sick of playing games.

I find that the women I am interested in, 19-22, you almost have to play games with them to get them remotely interested.
 

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Originally posted by locarius
Yea I think your method would likely work best on more mature women. The girls who are sick of playing games.

I find that the women I am interested in, 19-22, you almost have to play games with them to get them remotely interested.
yeap.. me too
 
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