"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Schrödinger's date

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So this has happened quite a lot lately infact 3 times in as many weeks. Setup a date sometime in the future and then as the time gets closer no contact is made for confirmation or further details at which point I have a the following choices ignore, block or send another message.

Now until I send the message the date could still be possible but then I know from experience if I double text asking WTF is happening I know the outcome will move her towards blocking me or giving some lame excuse.

Reminds me of the Schrödinger's cat thought experiment, right now my date for tonight is in a super position, it will either be on or off but given I have no information Im left playing the stupid waiting game. I feel like the best thing to do is setup another date but its harder to do under the time restraints of a couple of hours.
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women don’t want to be the ones to be rejected so they go no contact. Sadly this means we gotta keep in contact and lead the interaction towards where we want it to go
 
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Clearly these are low interest options. Otherwise they would be responding enthusiastically to your offers.
 
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I had to look up the cat guy. He looked like a huge nerd. But strangely enough, from his wiki:

"Schrödinger's personal life caused him some problems as he lived with both a wife and mistress. In his journal, he also documented sexual liaisons with other women and his self-described "predilection for teenage girls"."
 
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To play devils advocate she did counter offer another time to meet... your over thinking it. Spin plates. Be stoich.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bitched out, sent a message "we on?" no reply. Deleted her and moved on.
 
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Most people these days are flaky, it sucks but no magic text can change that. Just keep hustling until you find a decent woman who respects you and your time.
 
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Foe said:
So this has happened quite a lot lately infact 3 times in as many weeks. Setup a date sometime in the future and then as the time gets closer no contact is made for confirmation or further details at which point I have a the following choices ignore, block or send another message.

Now until I send the message the date could still be possible but then I know from experience if I double text asking WTF is happening I know the outcome will move her towards blocking me or giving some lame excuse.

Reminds me of the Schrödinger's cat thought experiment, right now my date for tonight is in a super position, it will either be on or off but given I have no information Im left playing the stupid waiting game. I feel like the best thing to do is setup another date but its harder to do under the time restraints of a couple of hours.
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Where you're going wrong is setting up dates far into the future. Generally if it's not tomorrow or the day after tomorrow, it's probably not going to be worthwhile meeting at all.

Women are all about their emotions. They run on feelings. After 3 days they might not even remember who you are so if you send a message like that (we on?), they'll take easy option and just go quiet.

If you do want confirmation, call. That way they'll at least be reminded of who you are and what plans they made.
 
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