"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fender

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I've been readin everything here for a while and I basically know most of the skills i need to acquire.

But the contant roadblock to my success is my inability to make cold approaches. I can attract people I already know (friends, school chicks, etc.) but i can't appraoch a goddam girl i see on the street. I know all about the 3s rule, confidence, positive imagery crap but they don't seem to work.

Maybe it was the way I was brought up and the environment here (I live in Hong Kong...a very "closed" place). I can't even approach girls I don't have interest in...that's how bad my situation is:p

Any guidance and help would be appreciated. Btw, "Just do it!" won't do for me...I just can't force myself to go over there....

-peace-
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Fender
I just can't force myself to go over there....
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Theres your problem.

Take responsibility.

You have two options.

1. Grow some balls and start approaching.

2. Suffer.

These are the two and only options. There is NO other solution. The quicker you learn this, the quicker you start doing it.
 
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SomeRandomGuy

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The rarer it is when it comes to guys approaching the better for you. Like Sammo said, you only have 2 options. You either approach or you never find out if she’s the girl you’re looking for.

Believe me approach, it wont hurt and your balls wont fall off....so just do it for your own sake. Imagine those poor woman with so many guys afraid of approaching...so do them a favor;)

Also life is like a magazine. All the woman make themselves pretty so you can order, I mean…if you can order from a magazine or the internet then you can order in real life. There just waiting to be picked up.(just incase….woman are humans just like you not things, so just like you would love the perfect woman to approach you then so would they love the perfect guy approaching them.) SO APPROACH

The more you do it....the easier it’ll get.

Oh and…..Good Luck
:cheer: :rockon:
 
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I notice that when you first do it your terrified, but than you realize its not too bad, so after you pop your cold approach cherry you suddenly have an urge to approach girls, so once you pop that cherry its all down hill.
 
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