Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Scared away by interest

Crazy Asian

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So we try to get girls to like us right?
But whenever a girl shows high interest in me, I get scared.
Like this one girl. I thought she was hot. She asked for my number, and started e-mailing me like crazy. Now i'm kind of avoiding her. i dunno why.
She's hot, but I guess I'm a little scared off by her?
And it's like this with almost every girl that shows lots of interest in me.
Anyone else have something like this?

And fµck partial fraction decomposition.
when the fµck will we use that in real life.
fµck pre-calc
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Same situation, except that I have trouble actually talking to the girls showing high interest, yet its easy for me to talk to a girl who has no interest in me
 

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HandyAndy said:
Same situation, except that I have trouble actually talking to the girls showing high interest, yet its easy for me to talk to a girl who has no interest in me
yeah.
it's like i talk to her just fine when she's not showing any interest.
but when she does, it just feel so awkward.

i think it's because we've only had a few girls highly interested in us, and since it doesn't happen that often, we get scared away?
 

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Crazy Asian said:
yeah.
it's like i talk to her just fine when she's not showing any interest.
but when she does, it just feel so awkward.

i think it's because we've only had a few girls highly interested in us, and since it doesn't happen that often, we get scared away?
Thats what im thinking, its not the norm for us for girls to be attracted to us so we get nervous, its a situation we havnt been in alot of times and i think thats why we have troubles and nervousness talking to girls who shows interest
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Crazy Asian

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ha this girl i'm talking to just asked me what i think about when i jack off.
i'm like.... turtles.
 

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Crazy Asian said:
ha this girl i'm talking to just asked me what i think about when i jack off.
i'm like.... turtles.

LMAO!!

You should have bust some C&F on her...tell her that she needs to stop thinking of you when she does it!

And I know what you mean...this one girl, she's totally taking charge! She got my #, and has called me a few times...and she even initiated kino! She's kinda cute, but somehow I'm pretty turned off by it....I'm not nervous, but somehow, I don't feel like being around her.

And yeah, pre-calc sucks. Glad I graduate on Friday!!!

Turtles...sigh, classic.
 

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Crazy Asian said:
And fµck partial fraction decomposition.
when the fµck will we use that in real life.
engineers use that sht all the time to break down transfer functions and laplace transforms, for control diagrams, stability analysis, etc
 

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It's kinda funny, you get guys on here that start getting hot girls, having women become highly attracted to them, and then get scared by it?

Isn't that what we all came here for in the first place?

What is it like, "Holy crap dude that lady over there is *bangin'*, How can I avoid screwing her tonight?"

Crazy how that happens, right?

Ask yourself, what do you *really want to get out of this? what was the point of coming here to SS? To pick up chicks right? Well now you can do that, but you're not satisfied with that either. Part of this has to do with your taste in people evolving over time. Sure she's hot, who gives a flying rats anus. Does she have a brain in that pretty little skull? Is it even about the girls anymore? Just think about it for a while. Where do you want to go with this new found power?
 

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Same. I guess we're all just scared of commitment. We must all be on a PUA site for a REASON..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rebound Material

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HandyAndy said:
Thats what im thinking, its not the norm for us for girls to be attracted to us so we get nervous, its a situation we havnt been in alot of times and i think thats why we have troubles and nervousness talking to girls who shows interest
And Im third with you guys.

Its like "are you kidding me? Im interested in you and youre showing signs that you just might be on the same boat?! NO FCUKING WAY!?".

I think its also because we're taught on this site how to "build" attraction that when it comes those rare times when we havent done anything conciously to make a girl interested in us that catch us off guard. It personally makes me wonder what I had done prior to make her so interested. Was I physically attractive to her?(cute/hot) Was I naturally aloof for the first time while everyone showered her with attention? Did my fart smell good? etc.

Yes, and finally when we are aware that they are interested comes the second part: alright...so what now?...Oh yea! ask her out duh!...Uh huh, so how long do I wait?...How should I ask her out?...Is this a good date idea or should I try something else?...Oh man, what if she's just teasing me? What if shes just trying to lead me on?!...etc to that too.
 
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