Says she doesnt love PLEASE HELp

[slugey_dude]

been seing this girl for quite some months, i am 28 she is 21, she lives about 60 km out of town, we see each other 1 / week and whenever we do its always great. she always leans in to kiss me or hold my hand... hug me and just generally touch and be around me. last date we had she told me she felt like the luckiest girl in town. immediately after the date, like 2-3 days later she is reaching out to me , asking when we next meet, tryign to schedule another date and that for 3-4 days, as i was working night shift i couldnt see her and it just seemed like the momentum rapidly decreased to the point where we never saw each other for a week, i started calling her more, and texting, ( shift in communication from right after the date) and one night got home from a bar, drunk called her like 10 times, she was sleeping so she didnt answer, and i was a bit mad and texter her, "thanks for answering" next morning she woke up, she said that it was crazy and that i should have calm down. i apologized went to the beach and left my phone in the car. she texted me : you mad? i said nono L: and then before heading to bed, she stexted me she had thought alot. and the next day she texted me that she doesnt wanna waste my time she doesnt think she ll ever love me, i did the beta move and asked her for a chance for a few weeks to try to date no expectations ( she agreed but dunno if it was reluctantly.) so i say goodnight not knowing whats up figuring we will see each other but kinda being mad at her..i wanted to give her some space... yesterday she texted me : I think im just eternally dissatisfied and that i get bored quickly.. is this girl regretting ? is this girl unsure ? why does she have such a good time WITH ME, kiss me , reach for my hand , hug me, but after 4-5 days apart she starts distacing herself ? i am obv doing something wrong not being to ssustain momentum ? is this still possible to pursue ? thanks a lot for imput boys,

 

[Julian]

hhow old r u bro, sound young/immature/dont know what your doing. are you even bangin her bro

 

[slugey_dude]

im 28 man, honestly iv banged her once, i had to move back to my parents temporarily and i cant have her here ( european parents) , but your right man, its true that iv only been with her once, and she seems just very unsure, about herself in general, shes 21 :/ thanks for any imput. im struggling, with the issue that when were together on dates, she reaches out to me, kisses me, and holds my hand, and the days following the dates wants to always be with me, whereas once were aprt she has more time to hink, i have more time to act needy / clingy once i sense shes pulling away... its just crazy to me to have this pattern, she has a great time with me, tells me shes the happiest girl, act lovey, comes to kiss me hold my hand , post date calls me to meet up, initiating contact, and then as a few days pass, we cant see each other, shes starts thinking pulls away , and now tells me she doesnt wanna waste my time and doesnt think she loves me or ever will.. but the next day texts me : i think im just eternally unsatisfied...... thanks for the imput

 

[marmel75]

If you aren't fvcking her, you aren't Satisfying her needs on a regular basis and she will find someone else to do that...women fall in love with guys they are fvcking and who can make them cvm. Either you weren't good enough in bed for her to want more, or she is finding someone else to fill the role you aren't.

Sorry bro. You should be banging chicks way more than one time if you've been dating that long. Living at parents or not, you figure out other ways. If she is interested she is definitely down for fvcking in random places.

 

[slugey_dude]

yeah marmel you are right, now that Im a lil outside of the situation I can see clearer!!! you are right. do you think this is salvageable?

 

[The Duke]

If she is uncertain of her feelings for you, goes back and forth, wishy-washy....then you haven't flipped the right switches for her. Her interest level isn't where it needs to be. Game Over.

Girls like this are too much effort and in the end leave you frustrated. Some girls like her spend their entire life chasing that "new car smell".

Remember the one who cares the least about the relationship has the most power. Just look at what you have written here.

If you want to stay in this, then pull back and take 2wks off from seeing her. Don't talk/text much. You have to care less than she does if you want to gain control. If the power play works, then she'll want be left wondering why she isn't getting any attention from you and will reconsider. If so then pound that ass all night long like never before.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

You came across as an insecure, jealous, 14 yr old. She is young and at 21 your age gap made her feel tingly because you were an older man.

You screwed it up by showing her that you are immature and not what she thought you were.

No... You probably cant salvage this. You are too desperate and invested and she knows it.
If you were going to try then reduce all contact for a while. Be too busy to see her (fake it if you have to). If she is still interested in you then she will contact you.
Good luck.

 

[slugey_dude]

great comment daddy monster, so easy to see now that i have backed out of the situation a lil bit.thanks for the constructive chriticism and advice. ****ing helps that i have a hv9 all over me begging me to **** her, but still id rather the cute 8, **** i fingered this 9 last night whom i know for 10 weeks and she was already calling me babe, **** shes hot, but **** its a bit of a turn off

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Awesome... I hope it works out for you.