"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Saying the wrong thing

R

Rint

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 26, 2005
Messages
323
Reaction score
1
Location
Florida
I was wondering how to stop saying dumb things and the wrong thing. I dont think i have this problem, but alot of people who have this problem ask me. Out of sympathy i'd like to help them. Any advice guys? THANX!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

C

ChrizZ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2006
Messages
2,028
Reaction score
27
It always depends on the situation. Don´t worry, pain is a great teacher. You´ll eventually learn when to shut up once you gain maturity and life experience.
 
J

JPFromTally

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 5, 2000
Messages
284
Reaction score
19
Location
Florida
It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt. ---- Mark Twain.
 
R

Rint

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 26, 2005
Messages
323
Reaction score
1
Location
Florida
That is some good advice, but i wanna learn how to say the right and cool thing or the funny thing at the right time cause what u say in a situation determines how people view u.
 
N

nvictor

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2005
Messages
212
Reaction score
1
Location
Fredericksburg
Rint, there is nothing in this world that is not based on reaction. What I mean is that you have to program yourself to react funny, to say funny things. It's quite impressive the amount of work behind a stand-up comedy.

I think you should look for the book "Comedy writing secrets - Melvin Helitzer"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

S

samaka

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 26, 2006
Messages
29
Reaction score
0
Confidence. Generally people only say stupid and dumb things when they are nervous and trying to get a laugh out of someone or impress them.

Unless your being racist, homophobic, overly sexist or deliberately insulting, you shouldn't care what you say. People aren't going to remember it forever.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top