"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Saying "Haha" or "Lol" In every Single Message

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I'm sure you guys have experienced this before. When texting/messaging a girl, sometimes you have girls that say hahaha or lol before or after nearly every message they send you. Now given, i have a really great sense of humor, and sometimes I am hilarious. but sometimes there is no reason why they should be saying this.

So what does it mean? I realize that it completely depends on the circumstance and the girl. But can this be taken as an IOI? In my experience it can be. At the very least you are entertaining her and you've got her curious about you.

However, it could mean any number of things:

a) She's nervous
b) You actually did tell a good joke
c) Blantant IOI, she's just doing it cause she likes you, regardless of your humor
d) She's patronizing you, basically laughing at you
e) She's boring, can't carry a convo without a dozen "lol"s thrown in

Thoughts, fellow DJ's?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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lol these days usually means 'not entirely funny but i'm gonna laugh so as not to make you look bad' which is good cos it means she cares enough to do so.

hahaha used to mean she actually found you funny but these days it could mean the same as above.

when a girl really finds you funny she will say 'actual lol'.
 

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Personally, when I was younger I had a lot of problem with emotions. Due to emotional abuse, there was a period of time where I talked in monotone and literally felt zero emotion when it came to social situations. To pretend to be as normal as possible, I would say 'lol' or 'haha' after almost everything I said to make sure that what I was saying to the person wasn't taken too seriously or offensively, since I couldn't really guess how they would take it, due to having no emotion.

Now, that's become a bit of a habit when texting. Some people ask me why I do it and I tell them it's so that they know when I'm joking, and so that when I stop doing it, they can tell I'm serious. I doubt many girls do this for the same reason, but I guess the moral of the story is, there could be a million different reasons why a person would do something like that.

For most girls, it's probably just a habit. Just like some girls habitually put a ;) at the end of messages, but don't mean it in a flirty way.
 

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lol these days usually means 'not entirely funny but i'm gonna laugh so as not to make you look bad' which is good cos it means she cares enough to do so.

hahaha used to mean she actually found you funny but these days it could mean the same as above.

when a girl really finds you funny she will say 'actual lol'.
I have never in my life seen anyone use "actual lol"...lol
 

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kraytkiller said:
Personally, when I was younger I had a lot of problem with emotions. Due to emotional abuse, there was a period of time where I talked in monotone and literally felt zero emotion when it came to social situations. To pretend to be as normal as possible, I would say 'lol' or 'haha' after almost everything I said to make sure that what I was saying to the person wasn't taken too seriously or offensively, since I couldn't really guess how they would take it, due to having no emotion.

Now, that's become a bit of a habit when texting. Some people ask me why I do it and I tell them it's so that they know when I'm joking, and so that when I stop doing it, they can tell I'm serious. I doubt many girls do this for the same reason, but I guess the moral of the story is, there could be a million different reasons why a person would do something like that.

For most girls, it's probably just a habit. Just like some girls habitually put a ;) at the end of messages, but don't mean it in a flirty way.
Yea i feel you. I've had a couple girls using :) after almost every message. While i do feel this is habit, i do think it conveys very high interest, seeing as how these girls did indeed have very high interest.

I think it's all about context. It's like reading tells in poker or body language. There's no catch-all rules...everything must be taken in comparison to a person's usual habits.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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gravityeyelids said:
I have never in my life seen anyone use "actual lol"...lol
maybe cos you're not actually funny?

actual lol.
 

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I think its E). + most the girls throw this in there out of habit.

Other times its to ensure the playful manner.

Which looks worse?

"Fvck you, you assh0le!"

or

"Fvck you, you assh0le! Lol"

But most times the "lol" is ultra unnecessary

Ex) Her: Hey, what're you doing? lol
Me: The hardest task I ever been faced with.
Her: What's that? lol

Both of those "lols" were un-fvcking-necessary. Maybe the 2nd was prompted, but what the fvck is so funny about asking me what I'm upto? LOL

As for an IoI, its too tough to tell. it could be C. or it could just be the "I end all my texts with 'lol'" habit.

As for D. I highly doubt that, haha.

And "actual lol"? Nobody says that, haha, and the Guy who had that said to him, please smack her for her saying something so dumb. lol means Laugh out Loud. there's no silent letter f. its not fake (fake laugh out loud). That's silly. FLOL

Op I think its just a habit of modern female texters. Often times b1tches be putting "lol" when ain't sh1t funny. Usually when I actually did say something funny, said chick will stray from habitland and put "Lmao" to which I'd pat myself on the back & treat myself to chocolate.

As I speak I just gotta text reading:

"Hey, Michael seriously made me really mad. lol"

Apparently, to her, the fact Michael pissed her off is rather hilarious.

LOL
 

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This is ridiculous advice. :down: Lol
^There, i fixed that for you :p^

Anyone else hate the fact that using something as fvcking stupid as lol has become this common in our culture? Lol.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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when a girl really finds you funny she will say 'actual lol'.
I've never heard of this one but I've seen 'LOL IRL',

Anyway, OP, generally it means high interest. They get giggly and hang off your words. It tends to get annoying sometimes though when that's all they do, instead of contributing something of their own to the text convo.
 
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