So I have slowly began to get the sack enough to approach some girls, and I usually open with something that gets them laughing, smiling, whatever. Only thing is, I run out of stuff to say really quick. I don't wan't to take the boring, where you from, what do you do, blah blah blah, b.s. I have read some of the stuff on here about rapport and all, but still had nothing. What the hell can I talk about without seeming like a boring schmuck?? It's funny, because I can come up with 1000 things in my head, but when I'm there, I get nothing. Not really cuz I'm nervous, just because I can't think of anything to say.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Thanks PHAT rabbit, I actually do have some good stories, and all true since I have done a lot of sh!t. Thing is, how do I even bring it up?? I can't just be like hi, yaddah, yaddah, by the way, this one time I was in mexico.........How to bring it in the conversation, more importantly, how to keep them interested?? Thanks.
Nice. Thanks for the details, and I f-in love the audio journal, tight. That nurse sounded like a real cutie. It was just weird, the last few approaches I did, me and my buddy who is pretty good with girls anyway, just couldn't seem to keep them interested. I didn't really even have time to throw in a story, maybe it was just their personalities.
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Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
Nice piece of advice. Just ask a question about how she feels on a certain topic you want to talk about, she'll answer and then proceed to talk about that subject. For her sake, let her interact with your stories though. Practice helps alot.PHAT Rabbit said:
I recently met a girl that talks a SUPER LOT. Like you don't even know. I mention one subject and she goes off and has 10 stories to tell me on that subject. I can barely ever get a word in, haha. I kinda like her though, I always used to have a hard time talking but I actually learned from her how to keep conversations going quite well.
Your_Royal_Flyness
Don Juan
Life is situational, man. Try to keep it simple. Women can tell if you spent the entire afternoon memorizing a story. Plus chicks like talking about themselves. The last thing you want to do is sit there and tell a woman a long-winded story about yourself--especially if you two just met. On the surface she may act like she's enjoying your story, but deep down she is probably like, "What the ___ is he talking about?"Drewskie said:
Put it this way, the less you reveal about yourself (initially), the better. Women have a tendency to project their fantasies onto men during the beginning of your interaction. (Which is why my friends and I routinely bag women within the first few minutes of meeting them). Think about it like this...as she is telling you about herself, she is subconsciously feeling closer to you. The more she feels comfortable, the more she tells.
This is what you do. (I hate giving advice WITHOUT giving you a plan of action):
Next time you are talking with a woman and feel as though you are running out of things to say, ask her about something she's wearing, i.e. "Thats an interesting necklace you're wearing...what's the story behind that?" If she mentions that her mom got it for her, ask her about her family. If she says her brother has a temper problem, throw in some humor and say something like, "Oh now I know where you get it from." (with a smile)
Be personable and witty. Confident. Also, don't be so afraid to run out of stuff to say. Sometimes the awkward silence can increase sexual tension. Bask in it
Thanks man, I like that you say you back everything up with action, that's cool. I usually do just play off what the girl says, but when they're being totally unresponsive, it's kinda hard. I figure that just means they aren't interested, but I usually don't get the blow-off vibe either.